my guess is that this is the ol "he loved her the whooooooole time he just has no idea how to show it" story again. And its not that he was cruel its that he has never once talked to a woman in his life or seen how a single relationship functions so he just dosnt understand how to properly care for her and never once realized why she was so miserable and depressed. If only she had told him what they were doing and how she was feeling we could have avoided all of this! I keep seeing stories like this lately. Is this just like a common fantasy to have a real shit husband?