Kayyy first off i know nobody cares I'm just venting feel free to share your view but anyway I have this friend we have known each other from childhood so anyways earlier this year she became an anime fan and started watching tiktok keep in mind I have no problem with this however she texted me as if to boast about something,she spoilt the whole aot for me even though she did not read the manga but got spoilt herself and even though she knew what it felt like she still saw it necessary to make others feel that way,I forgave her keep in mind,I don't read the manga and if I was waiting for the anime,it wouldn't even be worth enjoying.Flash forward this is another issue so basically this female texted her on snapchat shooting her shot since everyone deserves to no?anyway she felt it necessary to screenshot this and no no lol not send it in the gc but post it on her Instagram story LMAO but wait it gets even worse she then goes on to "@" an individual and exaggerates about how scared she is with a laughing emoji lol. Keep in mind though I am pansexual the only person that knows this is my best friend,it is not something I am ashamed of I just don't see it necessary to share my business with individuals
clearly seems like she has attention seeking issues, theres probably some reason behind her behavior or what drove her to have that kind of mindset. I would have lost my shit if I was in your shoes and she spoilt aot cz that story means a lot to me and im taking so much precaution not to get spoiled lol.
Anyway, I'm assuming you still want to continue your friendship with this person and since I dont know her, giving her the benefit of the doubt she probably has other qualities that make you want to stay as her friend. But regardless, if you can maybe get mad at her here and there. It gave me the impression that you don't really get angry at her when she pulls shit like that. Maybe give her a speech or two about her behavior and how bad it makes her look. If she has it in her to take in your input and use it then good. If she doesn't give a f then drop her lol
That last bit sounds a little toxic. Well, 'a little' would be putting it nicely. I'm not an expert on this topic but I'll voice my opinion. Have you voiced how you felt about the things that she's done? Communication is a major attribute in solving problems and developing relationships. If my friend did something that made me feel a negative emotion, where it bothered me to the point where I couldn't focus. I would try to discuss or bring it up so that the friendship doesn't seem strained or forced.
Now that Second part. With her humiliating that girl who confessed to her. I'm not sure why she'd have the right to do something like that. As someone who's confessed before I know, it takes a lot of effort to confess to someone and I'd probably feel like shit if my crush did that to me.
I know it's hard to see faults in someone that you've known for a while. But don't ignore these red flags. It could make problems later in the future in your friendship. But like I said I am not a professional or expert just someone sharing some advice so please don't take my words to heart.
I understand that u probably care and want to be friends with this person but i honestly think u should drop her. spoiling aot was pretty messed up but posting someones confession to her on her story??? from another girl too???? whos to say she wont do something similar to you? just cuz of that id gtfo of that friendship i dont think its worth it
if you do want to continue ur guy's friendship though, its probably best to talk to her about it. ik that its trite but communication is super important in any kind of relationship. she needs to know that what she did (both the spoiler and outing someone) isnt ok and that u especially arent ok with it.
Don't worry(you're definitely not lol but it sounds sweet so just flow with it)I didn't,you gave a really good point to be honest . Concerning the first section I did let her know how I feel and she accepted it and she hasn't done it since but if you know aot yk once you get spoiled it's a super big fricking spoiler since it's all just plot twist and art and so you can't watch it the same again anyway the second section I completely agree though I've never confessed to anyone,it takes alot of courage to and I don't get how you can't respect that?and for the last section I really haven't ignored them she deleted the post later on though I didn't complain about it so I think she later saw it as a vulgar way to say what she had to say though she didn't have to do it on Social Media even if you aren't a professional you hold some really good points hehe ε=ε=(ノ≧∇≦)ノ
Ok so as someone who always listen well to others, I can say that's an obvious attention seeking behavior. I'm not one to diagnose your friend there w a personality disorder, but all I can say is that try to understand from all perspectives. Like you know how the girl who confessed to her must've gotten hurt by your friend's action, but at the same time, what causes your friend to be that way?
Her attention seeking behavior can be out of jealousy, low self esteem, loneliness, child negligence and etc. Whilst these are no excuses to be selfish, I'd still suggest you to understand everyone involved in this matter, including yourself that is :) Try asking her open and comforting questions, something I'd call as breaking down the walls•^• Or vulgarly speaking, make her spill her side of the story...
I just wanna assure people to not make the same mistake as I did in the past, that if you take one side's only, you'll come to regret it in the future
Yall quick asf