So, this is weird place to ask questions like this, but honestly it's where I'm most comfortable. So, I like this dude, and when I'm around him I tend to be quiet. It always feels like if I try to approach him he'll notice that I'm interested (I know this is just insane paranoia but I can't help myself). However on the occasion we do talk, I always end up saying something really suddenly and it almost always comes out as overly passionate and strange. Most recently I said "YOUR HANDS ARE THE EPITOME OF MASCULINITY. I'VE THOUGHT THIS FOR YEARS AND I'VE ALWAYS WANTED TO DRAW THEM." He let me draw them, but I felt like a disgusting pervert the whole time, I was like man, why is he even putting up with this. I sort of ended up crying afterwards, because I felt oddly lonely. Basically he was having a normal conversation with his friend on a couch, and I sat behind the couch and drew his hands from there (kind of a hard situation to explain). Anyway, do you think he thinks I'm weird? I'm sorry this is a really annoying question, this just isn't the type of thing I discuss with my friends so I have nowhere to turn.
Um if you're saying unexpected things out of nowhere then yes, he might be thinking you're nervous/even like him. I'm also nervous around people especially my crush so I tend to be rude sometimes, so I understand your problem lol. My advice is if you wanna get closer to him think about what topic you want to have when talking with him. Like, prepare a topic you think would interest him. I'm not a very social person so I don't know much, but I hope it can go well between you and him~
I totally understand that
And yeah he probably noticed that you like him but just being nice about it
And I turned into fucking robot when my crush talked to me and I can't even formed a whole sentence
Basically its like this
Him: hey how's your marks?
Me: um.... Yeah...... What?
And that's like the first time he talks to me and I messed up
Just know that ur not alone bro
Please. Should clarify that I've read Never Understand.
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/sonna_me_de_mite_kure/ (Not exactly ugly but he does have scary eyes)
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/akiyama_kun/
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/kijima_kun/
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/mob_kei_danshi_no_yuuutsu/
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/itonaga_kun_no_koi_no_ito/
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/tashiro_kun_kimi_tte_yatsu_wa/
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/hosik_s_story/
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/suki_de_gomen/
I think I'm generally an awful person. I really try to be kind, but in all honesty, I don't think that kindness is actually mine. I feel like I'm just pretending? I don't know, maybe it's not so much that I'm a bad person (at least not in the sense that I want to cause harm to others), I guess I'm frustrated with how I unintentionally hurt others. I hate my flaws, and I dislike that I can be difficult to deal with. I have so many regrets. Will, I ever be able to improve to the point I won't feel frustrated anymore?
I'm sorry to say that there will never come a time when you won't unintentionally hurt people. Working on your flaws is a good thing but so many people have invisible triggers, wounds, and sore spots that even if you never say anything objectionable they will feel hurt. Even if you become mute there will be people who would be hurt because you won't talk to them. Just do your best and remember that part of being kind to people is being kind to yourself.
this will probably sounds funny but why don't you try doing the mbti test? the test helped me a lot about recognizing my flaws and my own personality https://www.16personalities.com/ also maturing helps you a lot lol
Well I don’t think I’m a kind person but I also don’t think I’m a bad person. Though I do think I have not so high morals lmao. If I had to choose between saving a million people and myself, I’d choose myself lol. I mean why would I sacrifice myself for a bunch of strangers? ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭
And I think it’s alright to sometimes unintentionally hurt people’s feelings. It’s like a part of being human. I’ve also been hurt by some people’s words and usually I just shrugged it off since if I take too much offense in it, it’ll just backfire on myself. Let bygones be bygones lol. And yeah, what LaughingAardvark says is true. There’s always gonna be people who’s triggered about almost everything and misunderstands your words into something bad. It’s good to be nice but not too nice. If you’re just too nice, people are gonna take advantage of you and think you’re a fool. If you’re just too bad, people are gonna hate you and stay away from you. It’s fine to be neutral.
Tbh, I personally prefer being with people who’s straightforward and doesn’t conceal their feelings too much. At least I wouldn’t be that uneasy by thinking that the person is probably uncomfortable with me. Besides, people matured through their life. It just happens naturally anyway. You learn from your past mistakes. No need to force yourself to change drastically. We take it step by step.
Hmmmm. I feel that your statement is very vague. I don’t think that being a nice or kind person is what you should be aiming for though. I think if you have good morals that you stick to then being kind is more of an after effect.
If you want to compliment somebody because you truly believe they look nice then that compliment is genuine. But if you are just saying it to make yourself look good then that is no good. Of course if they ask you of your opinion it is better to be honest with somebody however sometimes it benifits the other person more emotionally if you lie.
If you are hurting somebody repeatably I think somewhere in your heart you know what you are doing and just don’t want to change. I suggest instead of saying you want to change and talking about it, to go out and do something you don’t normally do to become happier with yourself.
The last piece of advice I have is to not be mean and say negitive comments while “in the moment”. Nothing good ever comes from anger and frustration. Know when you need to take a break and figure out your own limits. If you don’t know your own limita you’re never going to figure out anybody elses limits.
It's about this girl who isn't very pretty (and also an otaku), but she slowly improves herself throughout the manga becoming a cute average, but not necessarily stunning. The first half focuses on this boy she has a crush on but later rejects her, the second half focuses on the boy she actually ends up with. Thanks!
Seems similar to this http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/hirunaka_no_ryuusei/
It's about this girl who isn't very pretty (and also an otaku), but she slowly improves herself throughout the manga becoming a cute average, but not necessarily stunning. The first half focuses on this boy she has a crush on but later rejects her, the second half focuses on the boy she actually ends up with. Thanks!
I always feel like that because my mind is constantly in the gutter. Yaoi occupies 90% of my thoughts.
I'm not a pervert as long as I don't make an action or says it verbally that can causes people to feel uncomfortable. My thoughts are privileged to mine and no abide by any rules.
I get you, it's okay to be a pervert as long as you don't do anything against anyones will or exploit others. I'm a hardcore dom, whether I'm with a girl or guy, I always wanna do crazy sexual things to them. Most can't handle what I do though, they think this pervy stuff is the same in reality as it is in a manga, but it's not. It's much more intense and the pain is real. I do sometimes feel bad, since some of the stuff I think up and wanna do is really bad, but then , I remember, it's who I am. Don't feel bad about being a dirty lil perv~ They enjoy sex better than anyone else =p
Never brought anything up with me and we were together 5 years.
So, a while back I read this yaoi about a boy who really liked to draw going up to the rooftop at school. He finds a guy on the rooftop wearing a summer school uniform. He falls in love with him and wanted to draw him. So he goes into the art classroom to find that there was already a drawing of him. The sensei tells him that a student who died. Please, I need to read this again.
Its a yaoi manga about a guy who is the president of a brand that makes stiletto heels. He's in love with his assistant/ subordinate???
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/red_theatre/
maybe?
thank you
you're welcome!