
I don't think the people complaining in the comment section about how annoying Yi Rim is for not communicating well and running away understands how when you are abandoned so much as a kid and when your needs are less prioritised by your care givers, the children often grow up being avoidant or developing an unhealthy attachment style. It's probably that and also the fact that so many people in his life gave him less importance when he really needed it he grew up with the mentality that his needs and all comes second. Like he wanted to also be with Cheongho but he didn't want his needs to be the reason as to why Cheongho had to stop doing what he loved. I think he had more of an anxious avoidant style of attachment if I'm not wrong. Children with an anxious avoidant attachment style may learn to suppress their need for comfort when upset, depend on themselves, develop a premature sense of independence, and shut down their emotional needs. As adults, people with an anxious avoidant attachment style may have difficulty maintaining relationships because they may not trust others to not reject or let them down. Yi Rim's is growth and his healing stage as a character was really nice. I didn't find it particularly annoying, but I found myself understanding as to why he would do those decisions because I also felt like that as a child. I feel like communication is easier said than done and most people in relationship would know how it feels. I feel like it's good to come from a place of consideration when you are reading about characters dealing with emotional and physical neglect as a child because most of the time what they do isn't intentional but just them dealing with their mental trauma. Idk the story was pretty clear on all aspects idk why some ppl are having a mind fuck from it

I don't like that so many bls have this troupe of characters saying that they are not gay and they only love this one specific guy. That's not how it works tbh. If you fuck a guy and if you're in a relationship with him you are gay and if you still like women you are bisexual or pansexual. Love is love but sexuality exists for a reason. Gay ppl are not gonna fuck the opposite and get turned on bu them and straight ppl are not gonna fuck and get turned on by the same sex. If you do, then you probably are in denial or just belong to the bi spectrum. Like if you are sexually attracted to a man then you are not straight lol. Straight people don't just bend their sexuality for one person lol. But then again I'm assuming since bls are written by straight ppl mostly alot of the topics regarding sexuality and acceptance are watered down so this concept just fucks with my head as a gay person lol

I don't think its just about kou tho. But even Naruse says the same thing aha. But then again fem gays and masc gays exist but that doesn't mean straight men will be attracted to fem gays eitherways just like gay men who like masc would be into masc women. I mean you can find it like amusing but I'm not sure if they will be seuxally into it. If they were then bisexuality exists afterall right. This is kind of an issue with alot of bls tbh, not just this manga. I'm not exactly upset about it because it's fictional but I find it to be generally very annoying because the straight to I'm only gay for you thing is just not real

I think its time we create bls where the uke isnt some naive simple guy who gets disgraced by the seme or ml until they fall in love. I see that bl stories often take inspiration from the typical stereotypes of straight relationships where the women or feminine figure is often treated as someone who doesn't know anything, is small, fragile and naive and having to depend on some stupid dominant toxic or cold guy. I just hate this troupe of stories alot. The uke just simply chose to forget traumatic events from the past and forgive the ml cause damn apparently maybe now its a misunderstanding cause he has fallen in love with the seme. But u cannot forget such things especially when they are issues that drove u to the edge of death, he should have asked and questioned him and got it cleared out. And idk how it works but straight men ain't shifting their freaking sexuality just because they find someone attractive. Ur either gay or bi there are no straight guys that likes other guys. Maybe could have gone with pan or something but idk that's not how it really works. Plus the seme was at a freaking gay bar and got mad when he was questioned. I think that explains something about his preferences, cause u don't accidentally walk into gay bars unless ur a dumb fuck. Every freaking bl has straight guys falling in love with each other. You mean them discovering their sexualities? . Idk maybe it woukd have been batter if it was unlabeled too but straight?? i agree with alot of comments. The seme showed no emotions or anything. Maybe an explanation as to how he fell in love or when he started liking him would have been nice. I was expecting something like maybe the seme fell for the uke back when they were in uni and got upset because uke was dating the toxic ass ex. But nope. Ik it was supposed to be a slow burn love story but from where the relationship is at rn it doesn't feel very grounded or secure. They aren't honest with their feelings, never said i love you, always being indirect with their feelings with some stupid lines and metaphors, idk anymore. Like BFFR. Where is the chemistry. Constant arguing is not chemistry. Also just because the seme is higher up and dominant doesn't mean he has to win or should always be right. That's now how real life works. Atleast show us the semes pov and his breakdowns and frustrations. We only hear 2nd or 3rd person povs when it comes to his emotions like Jaehwan saying hes angry. We never see him express sadness or whatsoever. I don't think being a seme means u need to be cold all the time and show no emotions. This is something that should be applied to alot of bl stories.. Its not weak to show ur weakness or to cry or break down. I find it really attractive when guys are able to express their emotions well without always bring cold or having some sort of superiority complex. Its like i dont care but i still want you. There are people with avoidant attachment styles but not every single story has to be that tbh. A relationship should always have effort from both sides. It was weird when he kept inviting the uke to places at specific times but not showing up and then telling him something else when he calls. That's kind of devaluing, to him as a person and also his time. And he be disappearing with no explanations to random places, maybe atleast let him explain where he is going or something. He didn't seem like he cared or he gave a fuck unless he was horny at the office or something. Idk i felt sm 2nd hand embarrassment throughout the storyline for the mc. The story could have been done better honestly. It was very rushed and u can't do that when discussing about mental traumas and deep shit.

I have quite a few that are actually really good interms of storyline and shows you the pov of both the characters. Most of them are fluff tho but its worth the read and are slow burn ones
The best one i have read so far is definitely cherry blossoms after winter, i loved it so much that i have re read it a couple of times.

I will list some of my best reads so far. I believe they aren't exactly like the typical stereotypical ones but also has good storylines and build up
Cherry blossoms after winter (my favourite bl of all time)
Incidentally living togather (explores topics of trauma and finding love, where you see the pov of both the characters)
The best smell ( a really good highschool romance, slice of life bl. Definitely one of the best)
Fools (another amazing slice of life bl about University lovers, one of my best reads omg)
Kiraide isaste ( respectful seme, the type of seme we need in every bl, really good chemistry, its an omegaverse but tw for trauma and rape)
Whose baby is it (it is ongoing but the chemistry between both mc and ml is really good. Alot of view into their family and drama surrounding it)
Semantic error (quite different from the usual fem uke masc seme troupe, its really cute and good)
4 weeks lover ( the uke in this is wild and the seme is just heads over heels for him lol, its cute)
Night maze (pretty good read honestly, its still ongoing but the chemistry between th characters is really nice, also explores abuse topics and trauma )
Dear door (i love this one sm, it has alot of sex but it also has alot to offer interms of storyline and omg the chemistry between the characters is chefs kiss, one of the best fantasy or supernatural bls i have read here, although i would say there is a bit of consent related issues at the start cause its about demons )
Star× fanboy (the chapters are quite short but its a nice read tbh, a story about the relationship between a movie star and his fan, its adorable af, a really good fluffy one)
The baker on the first floor (i love this one sm too, very cute chemistry)
My darling signed in(this one is good towards the end, i kinda hated the whole straight guy ×straight guy bs, the seme is a tsundere whose childish and i hated both the characters especially seme at the start but the art and everything is amazing in this, i really liked it towards the end tho, its not very stereotypical, so ig it was a good read for me)
Deliverence of counterattack (i would say to give this a try, the uke is not like the typical uke, kinda cold but also nice although i dont like some aspects related to him tbh, ml is goofy, it explores heavy topics of trauma and family drama and abuse)

I hate animal printed undergarments especially leopard printed ones on speedoslooks like a joke. And people should stop being mean and complaning about everything. Consider the fact that you are reading from an illegal web page and the translator is doing the best as they can for us. They aren't the artists so they can ridicule and criticise whatever there is. Its not like they are saying its horrible just expressing their opinion just like the rest of us in the comment section. Maybe it might not be as big of a distractions for most of us but it varies with different people. The artist doesn't lose anything with a healthy criticism, it can only improve the art

I thought i could handle this, i cant handle sad stuff well but here I am crying my fucking eyes out. I am sad he never got to see the Jasmine bloom. But as he said i am glad he died while being treated well. So much pain for him Zhishu and for what.. I hope that if there is a next life or parallel world he will meet with the doctor and live a happy life. I really do. Hate the fact that i get attached to fictional characters like this. Now i will forever be thinking about this and crying. Idk i cried during the letter part too but that's not cause of Wj but cause of Zhishu. He really wanted to do sm stuff but he denied him all those stuff. Just i wish he was happy ughh. Fuck that seme he desveres all that pain and loneliness. Toyed with 2 people until they died. I hope Zhishu is now guarding Dr Ai's door ans around his home as a guardian while lighting up his parents grave and all
It's so nice to see that both Yirim and Cheongho who were born without parents and in others care give Yiho so much love and build up the family they never had. It's like we are not letting our son grow with the same insecurities and loneliness as we did and that just warms my heart so much. I love this family so much like this is my most favourite bl now replacing cherry blossoms after winter