Hold on
....but they're just kids
it was in a afterschool club bathroom her name was sophia she was a year older then me it was before i knew what lgbt+ so i said can two girls kiss she said yes and then i said can you show me and then we madeout in a bathroom and we would do this for then next couple months until she started to be a bitch so i broke up with her (after are first makeout seech i asked her to be my girlfriend) and now 4 years later i ama non-binar pansexual with a wonderful girlfriend(๑•ㅂ•)و✧
okay senpai help
LIKE I GET REAL CONSCIOUS AROUND GIRLS
LIKE not turn on n stuff but conscious af, now thing is even if i wanna try smthing to fig this out i cant
cz they might get weirded out, and u know how some girls are so bitchy, they sell u out
idk how can i know if i am pan or not
i read yaoi and shoujo and no yuri so idkkksauhanfgvkugvkgnvjnv
me too i get really conscious around girls too especially if i think theyre pretty or theyre cool HOWVEEEEEEER i dont think im bisexual cuz ive imagined myself in a relationship witg a girl and nope i really dont think i could develop real feelings for a girl tho im def open to the idea!! like if it happens it happens but the thing is….its just never happened and im not gonna force myself to make it happen yknow anyways what im trying to say by talking about myself even tho this is also your struggle (lol bad habit of mine when trying to empathize) is to imagine yourself in a relationship with a girl or look back on times where you felt something for a girl like how you do with guys but try to picture a girl who you see yourself potentially liking and not like a random girl from your class. Also you dont have to force yourself to find a label, hell i dont even know what my sexuality is and im 21 (sad hours) but im fine with it because what happens, happens ykno the world is much more open-minded now so just take your time. Also pansexual people are attracted to the person, not who they identify as so if gender doesnt matter to you when liking a person, there’s your answer! sorry for the essay lawl
okay well gender does not matter to me but i still do have a preference its vigina so like even if it not a girl but they have one the probability of me liking them is higher then that of a person with a penis but i feel like if i met the right person with a penis maybe i could feel a sexual desire to it but so far no, i've dated one guy and i did not want to even kiss him and that was about a year or two ago and yes i have has "crushs" on guys but now i realize that i did not feel any desire to be with them and that i felt like it was mandatory to like a guy. And on the other hand anime men manga men yaoi men there not real and i could never go out with one but do i still simp for them yes...yes i do. and i read yaoi and shojo to but i dont really like yuri idk why i just dont get the appeal of it but do i still have a sexual desire for women yah i do. if you want to find out if your kinda like me watch a show with a sex scean and think about who you are looking at the girl or the boy or think about what your type would be, i even i have a type even though im pan, and i did think oh no im just a lesbian but that just did not fit the way that i saw myself, like i could not only like women (btw non-binary people can be lesbians) cuz there are non-binary people that i used to like and if my girlfriend came out as non-binary i would still like her and i could like a guy that i would have sex with so i was just like im pansexual i like every thing like if you were to like a guy and like want to have sex with him but then there was a non-binary person that you would have sex with and maybe if you met the right girl you would have sex with her and if you think like that your probably pansexual. But if you dont think like that and you do feel coscious around girls you could just want female validation like thats what i ment by crushs like if one of my guy crushs walked in to the room i would think "do i look good does he think im cute does he like me is he looking at me" and what i was thinking was just me trying to get male validation........
Σ(  ̄□ ̄||)sorry its so long and sorry that its kinda about myself i just get like that when i try to get on the same level as people but...uah... i hope that what i wrote helpedヾ(❀╹◡╹)ノ~
WOAH can't relate better
Also ikr ...like i am 23 and working and all the girls are cool at work so i feel guilty m thinking weird stuff ... Reason may be i have never been proper frnds with like more than 2 ..and i am introvert so we dont even hang out much even if we are such good frnds
BUT PROBLEM IS ITS DIFFERENT FROM GUYS ...BUT SOMETHING IS DEFINITELY THERE ...I HAVE totally started to imagine how they will react ..the real people who are girls i mean
Just like u i DON'T have fantasies about girls at all but ..if its about real ones then smthing is going on which i cant explain lol
And -_- in real now i feel ew fr guys even tho i dated so mch In past
Ah so i wanna make sure if my situation counts as welll and then i will be pan, coz i know fr a fact m a bit of dom, so any kind of guy wrks ..unless its a dom and we take turns
But SHOULD I TOUCH GIRLS :') I D K
Nope ..i can definitely relate
And sadly i hate porno, tbh it makes me disgusted lol ..i can't bear to see people Unrelated unknown and for whom i feel nothing ...to see them naked ..makes me flip out and throw my phone, do unless its a whole normal movie with a back story and i can relate ..i dont wanna see two animals just doing it lol
Sometimes i did watch it outta curiosity but not more than 10 mins, thats why anime and mangas are lifesavers
Anyway thank u and i get your point ..u are saying if there is a genuine between you guys ...then its fine whoever it is ..just a person is fine ...so i guess i am pan then
i should naturallly leave myself to it and yes if i got that "i have a crush" like feeling fr someone, that will be a confirmation
Oh and can u explain non binary to me ...i mean i get the gist of it ...but m confused as u said "non binary can be lesbians too" i mean i thought its natural for non binaries to be wtever ? As even i deny i am a girl thru and thru :') ugh will there ever b time i will know myself
well i am so happy that i could help and when i said sex scean i did not mean porn i mean like when you watch a romcom movie and they kiss are you looking ar the girl boy or neither or both. and if you think you might like a girl just make sure she likes girls too and then ask her out but if she doesent then maybe dont do that cuz i did that one and i was so embaressed and i had to see her everyday cuz we where in the same class....
and as for the non-binary thing soooo the binary part is gender in general so girl and boy but when your non-binary your in the middle and the outside of the binary soo you can look like a girl but you can still not be a girl its when you dont really feel like a guy or a girl but you still look like one. like my pronouns are shethey cuz i dont feel like a girl or a guy but i still look like what people think a girl should look like (when i say shethey i mean that you can use sheher and theythem pronouns ) so i do look fem but i dont feel like a girl.... and when your a girl or a boy thats your binary so when you dont have one you evey part of the bianry
i hope that helped and if you still dont get it i will put the google explination
Dictionary
non·bi·na·ry adjective: non-binary
1.not relating to, composed of, or involving just two things.
"Aristotelian ontology is nonbinary on the second level in that it allows for degrees of being"
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