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my first relationship when i was 14 ended abruptly bc of my mom physically and mentally abusing me for being in one. although i didnt experience the stigma of ML being gay, i empathise with his experience overall. i havent been in a relationship since then and im turning 21 in a couple of weeks hahaha. i'm so avoidant when it comes to romance and getting in a relationship. too on guard. weighing the pros and cons, always thinking what my mom would say and think.
Situations like that suck. Even if a parent doesnt want their 14 year old in a relationship, there's ways to go about it and actually properly parent your child on why it's not a sound idea etc. But if it was so bad it affects you that much now what she would say/think (not actually questioning your oen self worth like the MC), personally I would've not cared at that point anymore and simply cut off the parent if they have anything bad to say about me being in a relationship as an ADULT. Many parents out there take too much advantage of their kids into adulthood which is fucked up. It's their own life.
as i grew older i still never understood my mom's parenting, i kept asking myself "why didn't she just guided me and taught me boundaries instead of forbidding me to experience love at a young age?" i wouldve done so to my kid. now, they want me to get married and have kids (and even take back my ex). i do have plans to move out as soon as i have a stable job, i feel like it's the only way i can comfortably be in a relationship. that way i can ignore whatever remarks they have with my relationships in adulthood. i hate being controlled now
I literally had to move out for my own sanity myself. Nothing to do with a love life since that's not something I prioritize. Not that my parents felt controlling necessarily, but there was def emotional neglect on their part all throughout me and my sister's childhood and the only way we came to a point of being ok with each other was after living separately. It really does wonders. One of the reasons I dont care to go out of my way to date is because of my parents though. I have my own standards of myself and if I ever get a partner BECAUSE my parents were a very good "what not to do" example. I still have to get to a point of being able to function at more or less 100% by myself before subjecting any other person to something less and vice versa lol.
same i also dont prioritize lovelife but i reject people tryna make advances in a heartbeat bc of commitment issues now and standards. cant wait to move out fr, i feel like our relationship as family will improve if we live separately. i feel u w the emotional neglect
i also want a kiss to shut me the fuck up