I know this is a manga site, but I’ve been here for years, and I’ve seen how there are really wise people here. So please, help this girl out.
There’s this guy courting me, and I really love him. But sometimes, I get sad or even cry because he doesn’t update me, not even for a minute. Sometimes, we don’t talk the whole day because he’s not in the mood, and he won’t reply, which I try to understand. But in the first two months, he wasn’t like this.
We’re in a long-distance relationship. Before we met, we’d call for hours, and he’d always reply so fast, updating me without me even asking. But after we finally saw each other, and I went back home, 14 hours away, things changed. I visited him again in December and January, and even surprised him this February because I’m the kind of girl who would go to great lengths for love. I don’t believe in loving with conditions.
But lately, I’ve been crying. When I ask why he doesn’t update me anymore, he says I make small things a big deal. But back then, he used to care about these things, he’d even get mad if I didn’t update him. It makes me wonder if he’s still courting me.
Every afternoon, he just plays video games, then at night, he tells me not to sleep yet so we can say goodnight. Last night, I stayed up late because I had schoolwork. He only replied at 4 AM, after playing the whole afternoon and night, just to say goodnight. He promised he’d update me, even just a single text, but he didn’t. He forgot about me. And when I told him I was mad, he said he’s doing this because he misses me, so he avoids talking to me and keeps himself busy instead.
When I ask if he’s still interested, he says he is and that he loves me. But sometimes, it feels like it’s just words, not actions. I just want to understand what he really wants. I don’t want to be the girl I was before, the one in a two-year relationship where she was taken advantage of because she stayed quiet about things like this. That’s why I always try to communicate now.
But I don’t know... does he still want to court me? Or am I holding on to something that’s already fading? I know I’m inexperienced, and I’ve been through ups and downs, but I just want to know, should love feel like this? Should it make me question whether I’m wanted? What should I say or do? I’d really appreciate any advice. Please be kind.
