i read this a few months ago, was unfinished at the time, somehow didnt save it anywhere and i cannot remember for the life of me what it was called nor can i find it anywhere!! it was like a villainess situation where she woke up and was like in the middle of whipping a servant? and was like i don't want to be doing that at all. and she stopped. and she discovered she was reincarnated and already married to a duke. arranged marriage i believe. and they have a cute young daughter. she was always super rude to her husband before she reincarnated and was indifferent/rude to their daughter. the husband has like a curse type thing where she thinks if he falls in love or feels love he will be freed from the curse that makes him go crazy and kill and remembers that in the novel she had read previously he and her get in a fight and he kills her and their daughter accidentally before he meets the ogfl who "saves" him and decides to be a good mom now and to run away with her daughter so they can survive but he doesnt want to let her. she also helps him find a dragon cave with treasure i think. and her and her daughter leave and go to a villa in like another county or something and meets some older ladies and becomes friends and i think she helps someone in an abusive relationship... i think this guy was abusing like his wife and child who her daughter becomes friends with and another duke also shows up who her husband hates and vice versa but her husband comes to bring them back home and stays at the villa til they come home. i think she is blonde...
the only thing i can remember is the fl can see and talk to the spirit residing in a stone, and i think that means she is the saint? and theyre at the temple i think. and due to some pact the spirit made with this old guy's ancestors he has to listen to his orders and his orders were that he has to make the stone glow for a certain girl and not the fl when they have the ceremony to choose who the new saint? is. even though it's not her. and the girl doesn't think it's her either. like the fl was talking to the spirit in front of everyone but since no one else can see or hear it they said she was pretending and that the other girl is the real person who can talk to him. he's in the form of a child i think because he's running out of power and i think he made the pact with those ancestors because he was young and lonely and they took advantage of him? the spirit apologizes and says he doesn't have a choice and makes it glow for that other girl, and they make that other girl the new saint or whatever. and they have the fl be like a nun sort of who helps the saintess in the background but actually doing most of the work and they have the new saint purify long distance using like orbs or something but the fl does most of the purifying cuz the saintess doesnt have nearly enough power and everyone knows it.
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/seijo_no_hazu_ga_douyara_nottoraremashita/
its this one i think, with the short haired bitchass. the plot u were mentioning is the second arc i think.
thank you!!!!!!!!!