Howling Candy

Real.

Ikr we're not prepped for this question irl. And my gaydar was not tingling with her so no effing way I'm saying I like it lol

Fr the vibes have to be there.

I also had same experience
Not irl but online
One of the people suddenly asked me if I read bl
I lied
I want to be like that person he is so free I mean he don't care what people will think
But here I am who is scared to say I'm gay even in online group
How will I tell offline people I'm gay
Maybe never

bruh my gaydar is really weak lmao, i wouldn't even know if a person was gay unless they're being quite obvious (i'm talking abt ppl who are openly gay not the closeted ones)

I remember my supervisor teasing me about me liking to read SwordFights

Yeah some people are more feminine they make it obvious that they are gay lol
I mean why do some people act like this
it's cringe
These people are the reason why people think every gay man is feminine

Yup , i don't want to be the weird one here. I mean it's not weird to be gay. It's just the people are not right. The vibe I'm getting from her is not it

Yeah, only one of my sisters and my best friend know about me.

I might as well just quit my job if my supervisor knows I read bl lol

Hahahaha. He is cool with it actually a team mate of ours introduce me to read BL and I got addicted since then so when I told my supervisor I was busy he will just say busy reading sowrd fights ╮(￣▽￣)╭

Not an advice. I get overwhelmed easily too by reading too much story in one time. I'd read something to the very end even tho I got sick of it halfway or completely drop it. Definitely not recommend this #－.－)

I'd start by taking your time. When you start to feel yourself getting too emotional, pause and come back later when your feelings have mellowed out for a while.

Or you can try spoilers. Picking a random chapter to start at or starting towards the end to spoil some of what happens helps to give yourself time to be emotionally prepared for what's to come. For example, say a manga is 110 chapters; start reading to give yourself a basis of who the characters are and what is going on, then skip to say chapter 83 and see what's going on for a few chapters (just skim through to find spoilers like "so and so dies on chapter 89"). Now you have that knowledge and can give yourself time to process it and then start the book from the beginning. This way, you won't get too invested in a certain character etc. and can read the book all the way through properly without nearly as much emotional distress. It'll still be enjoyable too, since you'll be able to put more emphasis on HOW the story and the characters get to that point.

I often get very emotionally invested as well and its absolutely nothing to be ashamed of, it can just be frustrating at times. Spoilers is what works best for me.

Actually very real, because when I feel something is going to happen, I just dropped it. Like no. Though if you want, you just have to force yourself to read it until it's revealed.

Idk if it's helpful since I can easily dissociate from stories, what happens in my head is that there is a switch that gets flicked when there's a scene that's too much and I see it as a image flashing by than a thing that can actually happen to someone.

Maybe you can tell yourself that the scenario ain't happening? That it's a hallucination perhaps and it's all a bad dream and things do get better?

Maybe a tip would also be to take some time to process those emotions so there's space to continue the story again. And remember that it is a story and it isn't happening to you right now and that you are safe and loved. I know it sucks to think it may happen IRL too. :,( And in the story it hurts the character(s) too.

Lol I already did the spoiler thing, and I got to know the MC died lol that's why I'm so devastated. My mood are easily affected by the things that I read and it's very tiring. One minute I'm happy and another I'm cursing out at imaginary person lol

I wish I had that switch in my brain. When I read a novel, I put myself in the story yk. When something happens I get anxious like too much urghh

It is a wonderful quality to live through the story, I'm sure the author would be happy to know. ^^ I believe mostly anything could be learned, I recommend you practice stepping out of the scenario for a bit.

Tbh for me, I don’t start smt unless I will finish it in one-two nights. By then if I don’t finish it, then I usually save it for when I wanna come back (usually then I reread the whole stary if that happens) or I don’t come back ever. This happens with me for “sematic Error”- I really liked it but I was slow on reading it and then just stopped. I knew it was good, and I really liked it but I just stopped after awhile. I’ll probs at some point go back and reread the whole thing some day. (╯°Д °)╯╧╧