Ouroborosnyc's Topics (35)

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This is their second life,.sejin killed himself due to stress, trauma, and everything. He was raped by the brother and because of that (Ido thought that it was consensual at first) Ido treated him harshly, Sejin then became pregnant but Ido is not sure if its his child so, yeah. He later on regretted how he treated sejin but its too late since sejin killed himself in front of Ido.

My poor sejin :-(

I feel the same way
Their hands look way too big. It’s distracting me

Mmmm yeah no. If I remember correctly, the Dom w/ experience didn't teach his Sub what a safe word is and failed to establish safety for his Sub. The Dom felt like he lost control when he choked him, that's why he wanted to comfort his Sub. Not saying the Sub didn't know about it, but to place blame solely on the Sub makes you unsafe as a Dom. :)

Oops, I did see that they did set a safe word "Stop". However, the no prep thing for a baby Sub M, is unacceptable. I do think that the Sub just needs to be guided, not treated like he's been around. Being dominated is great, but there is no trust between those two yet.

idk, it's quite normal to check in with your sub if you feel you may have pushed them too far. even with a safeword, sometimes people get too overwhelmed to speak, plus it's the dude's first time. it's natural to feel concerned.

completely agree with both of your comments

I agree. I think there is more criticism for the Dom here than the sub. The first play is supposed to be after choosing a safe word, and then practicing using the safe word. This is to make certain that it becomes second nature to your sub.

The Dom should have a list of yes, no, and maybe plays from the sub, as that is how it would be done in a contract setting.

If a Dom must always check in with their sub during play, so they can steer the play in the correct direction. At the end of the session, the Dom is responsible for providing after play care, to help sooth the sub down from the experience. The same care is to be given when a Dom goes too far. Their job is to take responsibility.

There is nothing abnormal about a sadist Dom getting off on the idea of causing pain, but there is something wrong if they do so without the consent of the sub/partner.

From experience, there are people who get off on large insertion, even when it hurts, or specifically because it hurts. A doms role there is to prevent injury by controlling the speed and lubrication.

And last but certainly not least, not every Dom is qualified for every type of play. Many doms learn from a senior Dom in a community, and from there, it is up to the Dom in training to seek out a more qualified Dom to learn from.

Basically, the Dom is responsible from providing play and care, and is the person responsible if anything goes wrong during play. Their job is to make sure they have everything they need for things to be safe. The way the Dom reacted in the last chapter is actually how I have seen a doms react when something goes wrong play wise. One wrong move could, no joke, cost a person their life. Especially with strangulation play.

A subs job is to listen and obey. There is punishment for disobeying for a reason. They need to know their safewords, and be able to vocalize them immediately when something is wrong. They need to be sure to give their Dom every chance to succeed in play, by giving them detailed information. The Dom needs to know if you have any health issues, what play you are ok with, what you will not do, and what you want to try out. The Dom will preform a pain test, usually on your arm, so the sub can tell them how hard they can hit.

The interactions in this series are complicated, as Dom/sub vs partner relationships are different. Partner relationships are typically more fluid, and your partners generally know you more than anyone else. So many have a verbal agreement and safewords, rather than an actual contract. Dom sub relationships should always have a written and signed contract, that gets updated as the subs needs and wants change, or if the Dom decides they can't or don't want to preform certain plays anymore. I think this has started as a partner relationship first, but the Dom should have known better than not at least coming up with a safeword and getting an idea of the subs fantasies before starting.

If you don't know enough about how this play actually works, you should try to learn more about it from the actual community itself.

Wow i love you

You would not believe what I had to go through to learn this stuff. Turns out, that a man who wants you to break off the relationship instead of ending it themselves will do just about anything to put you off, including him wanting to be a Dom and have subs, even if you as the partner aren't comfortable, and without him doing any research as to how it works. One extra hyperfixation on Dom sub relationships, and talking with professional doms later, and I seem to know more than the man I dumped. Lol

Okay thats actually wild that instead of telling you face to face that he does not want to be in a relationship, he does all of that ☠ like this guy made things so complicated for absolutely no reason

Right!? I have a lovely partner now!

But thanks to shitty ex, I learned a lot about the Dom sub community, so I am incredibly thankful for that!

Been a member of the community probably for more years than you've been alive lol. And in the context of this manwha, the whole setup is ridiculous and annoying.

Good for you

But you don't seem to know that the response the Dom had to not checking in with his sub was the appropriate response? Him choaking without preparation and freaking out afterwards is appropriate. You should already be aware that when you break trust as a Dom, you should be profusely apologetic and then see if your sub is willing to allow you to rebuild that trust. Yet somehow, your original statement says that the sub made a big deal out of nothing? Choking play can fucking kill people if done incorrectly! The Dom here failed to pay proper attention to his sub, and it could have ended a life if he hadn't caught himself.

Also, if you have had years of experience, that experience means jack fuck all if you have been doing it wrong the whole time. You should know concent is key in the community, and that any deviation from concent is either abuse or rape. You should know better.

FR I cant look away