
They're both red flags
She:
- Forced an engagement unilaterally
- Got her family to pressure him whenever he tried to break it off
- Killed the dudes siblings
- And forced someone she knew was weak to the throne therefore dooming the country
- Killed the women he cheated on her with despite it being her husbands choice to bring them in
He:
- Forced his way to the throne by killing his siblings
- Forcefully took her as his empress
- Killed her family and friends in front of her for trying to hide her even after she begged for their lives and promised to come back
- Locked her up till she went mad
- Kept her corpse in a glass case for 3 years using some type of magic to keep it fresh
Yeah og 2nd world ml was a trashy dude but let's be honest would he have ever ended up the way he did without the FL's interference. She forced literally all of this onto him so his goal was to make her as miserable as he was. Neither FL and 1rst world ML are innocent both have committed their own wrongs. However, despite those wrong in the end they got what they wanted. A version who loved them.