As a girl who reads BL, I understand why the other girls would take as an insult the fact that they're being called "fetishists". But even if you feel bad about it, WE ARE NOT IN A POSITION TO DEBATE ABOUT IT. That's it, I said it. We aren't gay men, so we won't get their struggle or the specific reasons why they're uncomfortable about BL, but the least we can do is trying to understand and validate them. Let's try to see it from their point of view, using as an example a situation we ahve to go through almost everyday: When men try to speak for us when it comes to feminism, or our struggles as a woman in general. They aren't women so they can't get the real issues we deal with in a daily basis, so why the hell are they trying to explain it if they don't know shit? IT'S THE EXACT SAME WHEN IT COMES TO THIS, ISN'T IT? We should just step back, and accept it's not us who should be debating about this. If they call us fetishists, then we shouldn't get mad and attack them; instead, we should try to hear them, and do as much as we can to erase the kind of behavior that makes them feel uncomfortable.
When it comes to us, we want men in general to listen to us and stop speaking about our lives as if they knew, so now that we are dealing with something like this, why won't we respect their opinions and just respectfully listen as we'd like to be the case when it comes to us. (also I tried ti explain myself the best I could but english isn't my first language so I'm sorry if there's a lot of mistakes)
I've been reading a LOT of comments saying so much shit about it （￣へ￣） I literally can't, it's obvious that the author is doing a long story where there's gonna be lotta character development while the plot develops... It's such an artwork and you all are throwing shade on it just because it's not just fluff and rainbows?(￣∇￣") And don't get me wrong, I like twisted and fluffy mangas/manhwas/manhuas the same, but it's such nonsense to say it's bad just because you don't like the characters behavior. I think that the author is taking its time to get the story to where they want it to be. The depth in the characters personalities and the way the author portrays it is awesome, besides the art is gorgeous! So much people is dropping it without trying to understand the good work the author is offering us with this manhwa ┑(￣Д ￣)┍ Just because some characters are twisted, have bad personalities or act wrong, it doesn't mean it's bad, I even think that doing this kind of character requires so much extra work because they're so complex and hard to justify, most of the time, their back story is complex and interesting as well, so why criticize so much? Don't fool yourselves guys, we've read even worse stories by authors like Harada! And that stories are good af. It doesn't mean that the things that are portrayed in there are okay, but we have to learn how to separate fiction of reality and value the artist hard work (︶︿︶)
I'm really bored and depressed rn and I want to be helpful somehow, I have plenty of free time so feel free to contact me if you need help translating! <3 (I'd prefer to work with yaoi manhwas/mangas
I'm desperate. Four months ago I was 70kg (162cm), and I was sick of my disgusting body. After three months of starving I reached 50kg, but my goal was (and is still 46kg). My family noticed my weight lose and forced me to eat a LOT of food, what lead me into binge eating a little less than a month ago. Now, I am 55 and I feel miserable, because I've been stuffing myself of food and i can't stop myself until I'm uncomfortably full and vomit. After that happens, the guilt and the hatred I feel towards myself leads me to this "attacks" where I hyperventilate and cry horribly, I'm not able to move and I faint every 3-4 mins while I'm on the floor completely terrified and I feel like dying. My hair has been falling out and I even relapsed on self harming because of my current body. I really need to lose 10kg in 2 months and I don't know what to do :( Any advice? I'm not planning on recovering, i am looking for any tips and i don't care if they're unhealthy, the idea of getting bigger scares me to death and I will do anything to be thin at this point
