I’m not her for arguments just conversations and questions! If you have a question feel free to ask I will try my best to help. I am a victim of SA so I have strong opinions on “dark romance” here is an amazing article if there is confusion
https://talynnkel.com/blog/2016/1/20/rape-disguised-as-romance-why-i-stop-reading-most-romance-novelsWhen I’m wrong I can admit that I’m wrong but I do need solid information for that so as to not just believe anything
♡dead inside ♡
♡HATES rape tropes abuse tropes!!♡
♡crazy for high quality goods♡
♡very picky♡
♡but laughs easily♡
♡always hunting for the highest goods♡
♡hate people who love rape or SA bl♡
♡I love everyone who is kind my little pookie bears♡
Addicted to the good stuff
P.s I am mentally goofy so if it sound like I’m mean I’m not trying to be I sometimes have a hard time discerning whether I’m being fair, kind or that good stuff
Remember that if you are saying it’s okay because it’s fiction you are forgetting that the wrongful presentation of sexual violence contributes to rape culture. It isn't about differentiating fiction and reality, everybody knows it isn’t real, its about cause and effect. Sexualizing, downplaying, romanticizing rape along with trivializing sexual violence in any manner contributes to rape culture because MEDIA including fictional media, is the biggest contributor to rape culture. If not, one of the biggest. There is no safe space for ANYBODY who wants to misrepresent sexual violence or SA victims. There should never be one, and authors who do that should be held accountable. Think about it we shouldn't want misrepresentation and sexualization of rape, it is HARMFUL content. Thank you for reading. I don’t want to argue, I just think it’s important to understand what’s okay and what isn’t even if it involves sadism here is a link to what BDSM actually means and what these people stand for:
https://www.harpersbazaar.in/amp/culture/story/essential-rules-to-explore-bdsm-responsibly-572918-2023-06-08https://www.everydayhealth.com/healthy-sex/bdsm/I think it’s important to note that people may not know what rape is of might not understand it or might not understand that what they are saying is hurtful and wrong her is an amazing article that goes over these things
https://talynnkel.com/blog/2016/1/20/rape-disguised-as-romance-why-i-stop-reading-most-romance-novelsI genuinely want to know why people victim blame and also excuse rape and abuse because it’s fictional and not in real life like I want to know what the thought processes behind that is?
Here are my thoughts
Rape isn’t excusable wether it be in writing (in books movies) or in real life I can see where people may want to separate stuff like how they say separate the art from the artist but if someone is romanticizing rape in literature and or in movies it has been shown to have real negative affects on society and how they talk about rape and sexual assault this also goes with abuse and abuse victims. As someone who was abused and sexually assaulted it hurts so bad in my heart when people victim blame or try to make the excuse that it’s not in the real world.
I’m a little confused I thought people just hated the fl but I read more comments and it looks like she defended her ex husband and people are saying he raped someone? Can someone explain
They all talking about the fact that in the last TL her ex husband forced himself on FL
And now that FL is forced into being in his presence because she obviously doesn’t want to make her dad uncomfortable in any shape or form.
I think there might be a more detailed explanation of the previous timeline and stuff, I still dislike James (her Ex husband) he still shitty piece of shit. But I honestly feel like people reacted a little too strong on this piece of information… but I also feel like knowing more about what happened in the previous TL will help us understand both(FL and her ex husband) of their unreasonable behaviors.
Male lead is still our blonde husband and FL loves him very much, she still end up with him.
(I still find the ex husband James very dislikeable and I’m not defending his actions in any shape or form btw I just think that people needs to have more patience instead of listening to 73836282nd hand spoilers and stuff)
Im waiting for new chapters mainly because im in the belief that there more nuance than the spoilers given appear to have.
I will never defend ex husband actions and the ways he handled things, he an awful person.
Beside that I feel like, people judge too quickly on the FL side when she starts to show noticeable flaws and it’s very jarring to me as a whole because it isn’t the first story it had happened nor the last story when people go into straight up talking shit about FL when she does something they don’t like. It’s also creates a very toxic environment in the community as a whole and stuff; and also lots of oversharing of personal life when we here to read fictional stories… (and yes I don’t think trauma dumping on strangers on the internet is good)
Ohh okay that clears a lot up thank you