Hoshikudaki's Things

Some people say there are two kinds of love: one who choose to stay and the other one who choose to leave but comes back again. But which one really is the true love and why?

This seems to be the mentality especially when you came from an Asian household. I'm curious if you agree or disagree on this. I'm curious how my fellow Asians and other ethnicities think about about this.

My best friend just recently took the board examination for the 2nd time. When he told his family that it was so hard, harder than the 1st one last year, and he thinks he may not make it again, one of his family members told him to just quit it and just look for another job or study another course. I wasn't able to talk to my friend in those months he was studying because he was so focus about it and he worked his ass off so that he'll pass the exam this time but we're talking about board exam. A lot of people know how hard it is and failing is, unfortunately, part of it.

So yeah, he was so depressed when he told me about it and tbh, if I were him, I would probably get angry to that person and might cut him off in my life because what that person did just create such negativity in one's life. But of course, since it's a family member, I couldn't tell that to my friend since he's very loyal to his family, no matter how they keep letting him down.

I don't know why there are some family members who act like this. Family should support each other. What happened to my friend somehow made me realized why a lot of students commit suicide. Why there are people who would rather die instead of seeking help.

If you were in his position, what will you guys do? What good advice should I give to my friend?

Today I told my grandma that one of my brothers is getting married soon (well, not really that soon but more likely 2 years from now). She snorted and told me it's not going to happen since he's not financially stable yet. But I told her that's his plan all along, be married at the age of 28. And then she asked me, what about me. I answered I don't have any plan on getting married or be in a relationship ever. Then she goes on and on about having a family is better. So what about you guys? What's your opinion about it?

P.S. It's true though, if there's one thing I don't want in this lifetime or my next lifetime (if ever it exists), it is that I don't want to get married or be in a relationship. I never thought of that not even once. Some of my friends had a bf/gf when I was still a student, but I never once felt that same longing. If there's something I want to do, it is to get a dog or dogs. Although having your own family seems great, it's just not for me, not interested, and will most likely make me miserable because it's something I don't want to do.