YALL WHAT THE MOM DID ISNT OKAY BUT THAT DOESNT MEAN WE SHOULD HATE HER TO DEATH AND SAY SHES GASLIGHTING AND SHIT.
shinwoos family on his fathers side was abusive towards him, his brother, and his mom. shed reached her breaking point with the brothers death and ran away. should she have left shinwoo? no. would she have emotionally neglected him if she brought him? very likely yes.
her abandoning him or not both had negatives and positives (if you can call them that) like if yall had a twin die at a young age and yiu had to live with your parent(s) only seeing you as them would that not cause a boatload of trauma? especially when they're already mentally unstable and dealing with ptsd?
yall are looking at this WAY too black and white. she clearly regrets leaving shinwoo and suffering from the depression and guilt from all that isnt 'gaslighting'. odds are that she wants to see shinwoo and apologize and has wanted to for a long time but is worried about it retraumatizing him and also thinks she doesnt deserve that.
like im not defending the mom abandoning shinwoo. she left him in an undoubtedly abusive environment, that was wrong, thats not justifiable; HOWEVER you have to understand that the mom was dealing with extreme mental health issues, especially since her surviving son looked exactly like the one that died. its entirely unfair to treat her like some evil villian when in reality she an incredibly human character, that did things with many emotions and intentions. she was in a permanent fight, flight, freeze mindset and the death of one of he sons was her breaking point. she had to leave it ALL. including shinwoo. again, thats not okay to leave him in that environment and abandon him she just was only thinking about her own survival.
like do yall need it to be physical beatings to understand the mindset of abused ppl?
fr! like the author is an amazing writer and people are over looking that and ruining it by seeing it so black and white. like parents abandoning their kids happens irl every single day, and i highly doubt that more than half at least are doing it because they just dont wanna take care of their kid anymore.
tbh the thing i find the most shocking is how people act like shinwoo wouldve been so much better mentally if she stayed even tho, without therapy (whicn i have a feeling his dad wouldnt let her go to), she wouldve always seen shinwoos brother in him. having anyone, but especially a parent, look at you and see nothing more than your dead sibling will be traumatizing alone; even more so since if you can only see yiur dead child when you look at their twin of course youd want to avoid your child. god i just get so pissed at how people refuse to see that somethings multidimensional
you really dont even come close to understanding anything about psychological abuse and its effects huh? shed been stuck in fight, flight, freeze for YEARS and her child dying was the breaking point. of course she couldnt take her surviving son that looks EXACTLY like him, who she likely blames herself for dying. i dont understand this kind of mentality where people hipe someone that genuinely regrets something deserves to suffer forever. ive been through shit and i dont even think like that to most those people, the only exception being the person that harassed me for years and threatened to kill me. mc doesnt even want that and hes the person the child. . people like yiu act like youre so better than these people and its disgusting
not me stalking this page waiting for the update as if im not fully caught up with raws listen, im very eager to read these without using papago to translate (〜 ̄△ ̄)〜
howd i forget to put the link sorry here https://newtoki324.com/webtoon/19335018?toon=BL/GL
never thought id say this but im so excited to see rouche get all alpha male when callis is there