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Can someone link me the raws? I'm too impatient to wait. ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭
https://lectortmo.com/library/manhwa/49366/el-tutor-privado-del-duque
I hope this works!
This is a thing that I've noticed but ignored up until now. I started reading Manga since I was in middle school. So my mental sexual maturity had sprouted since young. The problem I have surrounding that is if it's normal to not feel any sense of sexual gratification from real life sex senses.
I must also mention that I did explore porn sites since younger also. Probably around the same time I started reading Manga. But I have never found actual real life people porn stimulating. Compared to reading novels that describe the action or Manga that gives you a panel by panel portrayal, real life sex has never been anything appealing. To the point where even a simple scenario of exchanging lips and saliva with a significant other in real life fills me with boredom and disgust. Not that I've ever dated or experienced what people call "love," anyway.
I'm at an age where I see my fellow university peers finding love and whatnot. But that desire alludes me. Is that a common feeling amongst some people? Or is this feeling just me having a form of a lack of emotional and sexual empathy, ie, mental issues?
same, at the exact stage of life except I have some romantic experience. also had the same problem as you and ALSO thought I could be asexual
simple answer: you lack desire because you have no emotional connection to people. underlying factors that might be the reason (which you may or may not have just some examples); attachment issues, emotional unavailability, low self esteem, addiction to fictional sex
Definitely not a mental issue or anything that should worry you. I pretty much read only stories that include smut on this site but i cant stand actual porn. The thought is really disgusting and i skip any movies or shows that have explicit scenes in them because it's not something i want to see. I have been in relationships and had sex, although it's been around 4 years now i have been single and in those times i have rarely sought any form of relationship or intimacy because i feel like i have grown up a lot and my standards are much different than when i was younger. Even people i try to get to know, i feel no sexual attraction to. HOWEVER, i don't think this should be taken as a worry that somehow my interest in smutty manga/webtoon has altered my interest in people. Rather, i just simply havent met someone i would be attracted to. Especially as you grow older, you have different priorities and focuses. Also life isnt a fairytale, sometimes you meet someone and there's an instant attraction but sometimes there really isn't and only when you get to know them you start to perceive them differently. Of course this is contingent on you deciding to get to know them/ giving them a chance which could easily not happen. If you don't have the desire to get to know someone, that's all you should take it as. Don't immediately try to label yourself as this or that. You're young, take each person you lack interest in as an individual case rather than an overall conclusion about yourself. While you lack desire now, you may not someday or with someone. Don't worry at all! :)
You can feel stimulated while reading sexual stuff even as asexual, you can even have active sex life. Asexuality is simply just lack of sexual attraction to other people. I have no desire to have sex with others, I can if it benefits me someway (like for money), but I do not feel what people probably describe as lust towards anyone. I have never met or seen a person, real or fictional an thought I want to have sex with them.
I read the kinkiest BL I can find (and some F/F), I read smut, I write very kinky smut myself. I have plenty of real life experience with sex, I find BDSM fun. I still feel no sexual attraction towards anyone. I also dont feel romantic attraction but that's not part of asexuality.
Not all asexual are sex repulsed.
Lol @ people here trying to diagnose you with mental problems or say you're asexual. Nothing wrong with either of those but being grossed out by porn is normal. Most people are. Having a lower sex drive, also normal. Not having dated by college, normal. Literally don't worry about any of that and just enjoy your college experience. Boxing yourself into labels rn is only gonna hurt your self discovery.
Some people feel more secure when they can put a name on something. What OP describes is a very common ace experience, so I'm not surprised asexuality was brought up. Even if OP is not asexual, it can open up avenues for them to discover more about themselves and find more people who've gone through the same thing. Solidarity is nice.
My exact experience here, I swear. I'm majoring in psychology rn and there's a few factors about this situation I know about (a few mentioned above). There' also the chemistry of your brain reward system, where your dopamine circuits got used to the stimulation and kinda demand more of a specific stimulus for you to feel good/rewarded (like a drug).
The interesting thing about this stimulus is that it could be porn, but for people that consider emotional involvement a thing, videos of actors robotically having seen is not attractive or rewarding. Instead, a detailed portrait of people slowly getting into it can look more interesting. Porn can be consumed in a lot of ways, and analyzing the patterns of your favorite stories can show small tips about the way you express your sexual behavior. Some of my friends who found out they were assexuals reported enjoying fictional smut because of the better portrait given of emotional connections and feelings, but they still have no interest in the act per se (since they're assexuals but not arromantics).
Now about my personal experience: I also started reading porny mangas/hwas when I was still underage (at the time I was depressed and I wasn't finding anything pleasuring enough). I felt attracted to a few people until now, but sex wasn't rewarding for me even when I did it with my ex boyfriend. Instead, the best sex I've had was with a stranger on a exhibitionist setting and he had his right arm full of tattoo and bulging veins. I noticed that for me, no matter how much I trust people, sex has to be more "wild" or it'll be absolutely boring, and I need to feel strongly attracted to the physical traits (very specific ones). This could probably be a consequence of the stories I read, which made me interested in not the mental connection during sex, but in the different fetiches and sexual practices I could engage into (I love tattoos and veiny body parts, and I want to try being tied up and so...). Or not! Maybe I was just born that way, who knows. The emotional aspect I know I'm interested in is out of bed: I'm strongly attacted to intelligence (sapiosexual), and since most people can't understand my pov I'm still single :/
Every experience is individual, but it's totally ok for you to feel that way. You don't need to feel pressured to follow other's rhythm on that. If that makes you uncomfortable, try talking to a professional - helps a lot. You said you're wondering if this issue could be caused by a lack of emotional or sexual empathy. Well, try analyzing the way you connect to people but not in a sexual way. What makes you want to get close to specific types of people? And what actually keeps you connected to them? Oh, and I assure you it's not a lack of empathy. You enjoy fiction exactly because you feel empathetic to the characters. But porn videos don't make you feel that way... Then what is it that you can find in fictional sex that make you empathetic towards it but not to real sex? That could bring an interesting self reflection! I hope you find the answers you're looking for ♡
The translation could have been clearer but you can still understand the gist of it. The story itself wasn't too great. All the characters had a screw loose in my opinion. But the s*x was hot so I guess it made up for it a bit. It always makes me laugh when I see impossibly stretched a** holes with 2 d*cks and no blood, lol. I guess that's fiction for you.
Overall, it was an okay read. It's definitely not something I would be happy to reread.