Aei

Same here, i feel exactly the same.

Maybe you're just asexual

same, at the exact stage of life except I have some romantic experience. also had the same problem as you and ALSO thought I could be asexual

simple answer: you lack desire because you have no emotional connection to people. underlying factors that might be the reason (which you may or may not have just some examples); attachment issues, emotional unavailability, low self esteem, addiction to fictional sex

You see, I've considered that. But I can still be stimulated when reading sexual content. It's just when that happens with real people that that interest dies, never to be seen again. Very wierd...

What's that saying, there's always comfort in numbers, lol

Dang, that sounds kinda serious...Makes me want to consider getting a therapist of some sort.

Asexuality is a spectrum. There are many different kinds of asexuality. Definitely take a look around. You might find a more specific term that resonates with you. If all else fails, greysexual is a broad one that can fit most people who rarely but can feel sexual attraction towards others.

Definitely not a mental issue or anything that should worry you. I pretty much read only stories that include smut on this site but i cant stand actual porn. The thought is really disgusting and i skip any movies or shows that have explicit scenes in them because it's not something i want to see. I have been in relationships and had sex, although it's been around 4 years now i have been single and in those times i have rarely sought any form of relationship or intimacy because i feel like i have grown up a lot and my standards are much different than when i was younger. Even people i try to get to know, i feel no sexual attraction to. HOWEVER, i don't think this should be taken as a worry that somehow my interest in smutty manga/webtoon has altered my interest in people. Rather, i just simply havent met someone i would be attracted to. Especially as you grow older, you have different priorities and focuses. Also life isnt a fairytale, sometimes you meet someone and there's an instant attraction but sometimes there really isn't and only when you get to know them you start to perceive them differently. Of course this is contingent on you deciding to get to know them/ giving them a chance which could easily not happen. If you don't have the desire to get to know someone, that's all you should take it as. Don't immediately try to label yourself as this or that. You're young, take each person you lack interest in as an individual case rather than an overall conclusion about yourself. While you lack desire now, you may not someday or with someone. Don't worry at all! :)

autochorissexual is the term apparently. I’m same way,
Never been sexually attracted to anyone irl. I don’t think it’s a mental issue. That’s just how I am

You can feel stimulated while reading sexual stuff even as asexual, you can even have active sex life. Asexuality is simply just lack of sexual attraction to other people. I have no desire to have sex with others, I can if it benefits me someway (like for money), but I do not feel what people probably describe as lust towards anyone. I have never met or seen a person, real or fictional an thought I want to have sex with them.

I read the kinkiest BL I can find (and some F/F), I read smut, I write very kinky smut myself. I have plenty of real life experience with sex, I find BDSM fun. I still feel no sexual attraction towards anyone. I also dont feel romantic attraction but that's not part of asexuality.

Not all asexual are sex repulsed.

Lol @ people here trying to diagnose you with mental problems or say you're asexual. Nothing wrong with either of those but being grossed out by porn is normal. Most people are. Having a lower sex drive, also normal. Not having dated by college, normal. Literally don't worry about any of that and just enjoy your college experience. Boxing yourself into labels rn is only gonna hurt your self discovery.

totally normal for me, you just probably haven't found the person you'll love enough to experience such things. cliche but if you love somebody pr got interested in someone you do get aroused

Some people feel more secure when they can put a name on something. What OP describes is a very common ace experience, so I'm not surprised asexuality was brought up. Even if OP is not asexual, it can open up avenues for them to discover more about themselves and find more people who've gone through the same thing. Solidarity is nice.

Yeah but that's the thing, it's not *just* an ace experience -- plenty of allosexual people feel this way. Especially if they have no experience dating. It's just frustrating that anytime someone talks about this, ppl go "maybe you're ace!" as if that clears everything up.

My exact experience here, I swear. I'm majoring in psychology rn and there's a few factors about this situation I know about (a few mentioned above). There' also the chemistry of your brain reward system, where your dopamine circuits got used to the stimulation and kinda demand more of a specific stimulus for you to feel good/rewarded (like a drug).
The interesting thing about this stimulus is that it could be porn, but for people that consider emotional involvement a thing, videos of actors robotically having seen is not attractive or rewarding. Instead, a detailed portrait of people slowly getting into it can look more interesting. Porn can be consumed in a lot of ways, and analyzing the patterns of your favorite stories can show small tips about the way you express your sexual behavior. Some of my friends who found out they were assexuals reported enjoying fictional smut because of the better portrait given of emotional connections and feelings, but they still have no interest in the act per se (since they're assexuals but not arromantics).
Now about my personal experience: I also started reading porny mangas/hwas when I was still underage (at the time I was depressed and I wasn't finding anything pleasuring enough). I felt attracted to a few people until now, but sex wasn't rewarding for me even when I did it with my ex boyfriend. Instead, the best sex I've had was with a stranger on a exhibitionist setting and he had his right arm full of tattoo and bulging veins. I noticed that for me, no matter how much I trust people, sex has to be more "wild" or it'll be absolutely boring, and I need to feel strongly attracted to the physical traits (very specific ones). This could probably be a consequence of the stories I read, which made me interested in not the mental connection during sex, but in the different fetiches and sexual practices I could engage into (I love tattoos and veiny body parts, and I want to try being tied up and so...). Or not! Maybe I was just born that way, who knows. The emotional aspect I know I'm interested in is out of bed: I'm strongly attacted to intelligence (sapiosexual), and since most people can't understand my pov I'm still single :/

Every experience is individual, but it's totally ok for you to feel that way. You don't need to feel pressured to follow other's rhythm on that. If that makes you uncomfortable, try talking to a professional - helps a lot. You said you're wondering if this issue could be caused by a lack of emotional or sexual empathy. Well, try analyzing the way you connect to people but not in a sexual way. What makes you want to get close to specific types of people? And what actually keeps you connected to them? Oh, and I assure you it's not a lack of empathy. You enjoy fiction exactly because you feel empathetic to the characters. But porn videos don't make you feel that way... Then what is it that you can find in fictional sex that make you empathetic towards it but not to real sex? That could bring an interesting self reflection! I hope you find the answers you're looking for ♡

You know why was this actually kinda helpful to read

Dr. Frost?

Yes!! That one. That you so very much. I've been trying to think of the name for weeks.