Yeah I agree. I only gave 5 stars for the child lol
If you know how it is being gay irl when your parents don't accept or even shun you, you wouldn't want your loved ones to go through the same pain. Moreoveer, a lot of times straights walk into gay relationships for experimenting and decide its not for them or that was fleeting feeling. Aoyama's concerns were very valid and to the point.
About using Shin, that was something Shin did of his own will. Just because you help someone in trouble doesn't mean they owe you a relationship and a future. Aoyoma rejected Shin at the very beginning it was Shin's decision to stick around.
If someone likes me and I rejected them, I don't ask them for favors. Because that would be using their feelings, and it would prevent them from moving on. And I don't gives off, "oh, you're special to me, I am so happy you are with me" vibes. So in essence, the MC was not genuine in his rejection and did a lot of push pull. This has little to do with gay or not gay. The "I know what's best and this is hard path so you shouldn't take it" only works if he didn't continue to ask the ML, who he clearly knows has feelings for him for favors. Cooking and cleaning isn't that hard. Being bad at it isn't an enough of a reason to use someone that has feelings for you.
The ML doing things out of his heart does not change the statements above. I could do the same, and use people that have feelings for me, and then justify it by saying, "Well, I didn't force them." True, but I would also have to accept the fact that I would be a pretty shitty person for that doing that. And that's what I'm saying the MC is, a pretty shitty person.
"cooking and cleaning isn't that hard" you clearly dont know how freaking hard is to be a single parent, more so when you out of the blue become a parent of a 4 year old child. The MC was shunned by his family for being gay, also they DIED RECENTLY leaving him whit a child. He had no one. In that position, of course he would take ANY help he could get. Furthermore, even if feelings where involved they were first good friends (yes, people can be friends even if they have feelings for each other oh wow such a shooker) and if a friend is in so much trouble, even if they reject me i would know that the problem is so much bigger than my feelings. The MC also knew that he was taking a lot, but he was the only person he could rely on, and the ML knew this, thats why he also used the opportunity to get closer to him.
Sorry for going off but i got so pissed bc being a single parent without family is so so hard
Half the population in the states grew up in a single parent household, including me and my siblings. You do not need to justify someone's actions with their circumstance, that only makes that person's efforts seems all the more meaningless. "All the help they can get" is not using someone's unrequited love for you and then taking all of their free time to mislead them. Cooking, cleaning, caring and helping with a child is not a burden you put on your "friend" that just came back from being overseas after you rejected them. (What entitled world is this?)
The child was losing weight because he couldn't make a proper meal. He is "not good at cooking and cleaning" so they live in a trash pile(Really, 15 mins everyday is too much to ask?). Can't get a cleaner for an hour a day, probably costs less than 200 a month, can't cook for the child and the child is losing weight, then perhaps he isn't fit to care for the child. Putting that burden of child care on someone who you know loves you and you rejected is using. Justifying that with circumstance is irresponsible.
Also, no, I don't believe you can be friends with someone who wants to sleep with you. You possibly could be friends with your ex, but he wasn't his ex. He was a man that professed his love and was rejected. And now, that MC has a "special circumstance" he won't let the ML move on. "You are special, I am happy with you..." oh please. Just acknowledge the MC is a shitty person then you won't need to justifying his actions. It is simply a part of his character.
Maybe I am the only one, but I found the MC really annoying. "I don't want to be with you, and will continue to reject you but let me ask you to cook, clean, and care for us. And let me keep saying things that could be misleading and then push you away...." four and a half chapters of push pull from the MC. God, the poor Seme. At this point, I wanted him to just leave and move on.