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You can call it wholesome! The bdsm is meant to be a way to express your desires and have those desires and needs met. Isnt being selfish and being selfless both at once something that is used to describe true love and even used in marriage? You would call those things wholesome so why not bdsm where that unconditional care is more evident?
Does anyone know any other really good books like this? All the bdsm books I’ve found are either triggering and toxic or they are just kinky without anything to do with the element of “satisfying Dom/sub needs”. It’s always a sadist whos overbearing or a masochist who wants to get hurt and a tachi who doesn’t know if he can hurt the neko that much