Ma'amser... More tell me more..
It didn’t end well. Hahaha I can’t share a man with someone else, let alone a bunch of them. I kinda felt bad giving up on him but it just doesn’t work for me.
Totally understandable. I think he needs to see for himself there are limits to being over friendly. After all we date because we think the other is special and is like no other. And we ought to keep it that way. My father is like that and because he was TOO nice he coudn't refuse women. Or maybe he was just a jerk. My mother has lived her life trying to get him to realize his ways aren't making her happy. I'm happy they're living their separate lives now. Its too late for my father to make it up to her and make her feel special and love as she should have felt all throughout their marriage.
I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope they are both happy now, are they? I feel sad your mom has to go through it for a long time before breaking away from that situation.
Tbh, its okay to be nice as long as you know the right boundary. You just can’t treat your s/o the same as how you treat other people. Doesn’t make sense to me.
My mother tried hard to endure just to keep us "complete" but really all thats eating her away. Thoughts of suicide even went her way. So if anything I'm happy with how things are right now. I'm a pretty cruel person and I help but hold grudge over my father and every person who treated my mother like she was some trash. This whole marriage thing just scares me I don't think I'll ever want to get tied down by it.
I totally get you. I’m not a very positive person as well so I tend to begrudge people who have done me or my loved ones wrong. I understand why your mother tried to endure it. It must’ve worried her that it might affect you guys if you grow up in a broken family. But the pain must be beyond her for her to finally let it go. In my opinion, we shouldn’t be afraid to walk away from something that will cost us ourselves. Its a tough thing to do but if it meant peace, its worth the shot. We are worth it. So it’s okay to choose ourselves.
This rlly hits me to my core... Because of whatever happened with my family cause of my dad, it ruined the idea of romance, ESPECIALLY marriage for me. I can't fathom marrying a guy, only to find out "things", crying, and then our kids realize/find out later on because of a piece of paper.. it's rlly shtty. I can't even imagine the pain of what my mom went through. Especially with how I connected the dots of things from my childhood memories, and it all makes sense.. but now, I forgive my Dad. If it was 2019, I would say otherwise. I think it's mainly cuz of my religion, and inner peace that I just want to forgive my dad. And my dad truly regrets it.. I honestly think just cuz his my dad and I hear that he truly regrets it, that's why I could forgive him. But if I was in my mom's position, I would never forgive him. I rlly hope every person out there who have a shtty partner can get out if that situation and live a happy life. I rlly love my mom, and I hoped that she could've just left my dad like a decade ago, but I understand where she's coming from.. especially since most of her kids were pretty much minors.
LMFAO I went on a tangent here, but I rlly do hope nobody experiences anymore shtty partners. Sorry for the long ass essay (￣∇￣")
I had a suitor once and I was so close to saying yes to him when I noticed he was really nice. I mean its nice that he’s nice but he’s too nice for his own good. His girl friends would often turn to him for help and company and it was really making me feel uneasy. I felt cherished but I didn’t feel special since what he does for me, he would do for them as well. I think he didn’t realize the border line between me and his other girl friends.