But I have seen people literally ship Yumi with his abuser. Even if you're simply shipping their highschool selves, knowing what fate that beholds them and still thinking their relationship as wholesome is quite sickening to me. I saw someone say "right person, wrong time" and that "maybe in another life, they'd be together". I think I threw up in my mouth a little. No. It's not right person, wrong time. It's wrong person wrong time. I don't think some people understand that most of the time, abusive relationships start off just the same as any other. Sweet. Loving. Pure. In that regards, the abusive relationship portrayed in this set of stories is not very different to some abusive relationship you may find in the real world. And to even say that they're "destined to be" just because they started off nicely makes me so angry. When you actually witness a relationship deteriorate into something sinister, then you understand the true horror of the situation. And the story isn't just fiction, you know? It's a reflection of reality. Even knowing that my mum and dad started off as a fresh, highschool romance, I would never look at a picture of the two of them and celebrate their past.
Finally someone said, i finish the story because i hate hanging on something i didnt see the end, but for me, it didn't really sit right at me, the 1st story about yumi is good, and iam satisfied with that but for this second, where the abuser is the lead i just cant love/like it really. I had hard time accepting that they just forgive and forget and reminiscing past like it was some kind of fantasy but just gone wrong.. it was not just wrong it gone really bad which for me i will not be able to accept even if we had a good past, it just overlap with bad things. I cant really accept the fact, everyone just seems to feel touched about this story and forgive the abuser easily then he had happy ending just like that without further consequences, maybe i will find the story more enticing if the ml had some consequences (make it big) given to him. Not because you are bullied or you have bad past it is not justified to abuse. Give him much more consequences not just guilt conscience. I'm not abused or bullied or have this kind of past and experience but i just cant sit right through it knowing someone was abused. It was like asking for people to forgive your bully, would you? No right.. and bullying is much less than this kind of abused, i would never. Haven't experienced it but i will not like or hear abuser and bully to just got off scotch free.. just me.. my opinion.. maybe because im hard headed but.. owell just my opinion..
This was...a really weird story to read as someone who grew up in an abusive household. Maybe that's one of the reasons I can't fully see it as a 'good' story, you know? It's actually one thing to read about a domestic abuser and it's another to witness your dad hitting your mum. Call be biased, but I personally believe domestic abusers deserve jail time. The trauma and pain and fear that is caused by being in a position of a complete lack of power — a position you are in because of your abuser — is so unforgettable. In ways, I've forgiven my father, possibly because I feel like I'm obliged to. On the other hand, there are times I despise him.
He too like the abuser in this story had an extremely rough childhood. But, that's never a justification to be a bad person. An explanation? Sure, but you're never justified in harming people like that. It's never an excuse.
I've seen people go as far as blame Yumi. And I have no doubt that those people have never been abused like THAT specifically. When you're actually being abused, it's so confusing. It's a lot of suffering and sadness. It's lot of anger and hatred. Sometimes you yourself wonder whether it is your fault that you are being abused. You'll ask yourself: is it my responsibility to get help for my abuser (keep in mind, sometimes you still won't have accepted the fact that you are being abused)?. And so follow the nights of guilt. But as a victim, one of the hardest things to do is realise that no, you are not to blame. In regards to abuse, you are never to blame.
Don't misunderstand me, I'm not saying this story is wrong to exist. Nor am I saying people are wrong for enjoying it by any means. I understand why it may seem fascinating and wholesome to a lot. However, it's simply not realistic. I think that's also another problem I have with it. Being that okay with your partner being an ex-abuser isn't normal,
nor should it be. Furthermore, I would say it's nearly impossible for people with abusive personalities to become better without therapy of some sort. I also think Yumi's feelings about his past relationship isn't normal, however, some people who have been in abusive relationships may react like that. To me, it's dangerous that he would be so quick to forgive his abuser. But that's my opinion. Same think of it as dangerous and others benevolent.
I'll even go as far as to say that the abuser actually deserves to be haunted by his past relationship. But, that's an extremely personal take. I can recognise that I may be projecting my wishes for my abuser onto a fictional character.
And, hey, I'm not trying to sit here and tell you that my opinion is 'correct'. Perhaps he does deserve a second chance at love. I'm indecisive about that. But to each their own, right?