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I don't think reading only BL IS fetishizing gay men. It's a thing that's been going around, which may be mainly due to fujoshis and shippers disregarding ACTUAL gay men or making light of their situation.
As long as you are respectful I don't see anything wrong with it.
In the end of the day BL is just fiction.
So I heard that reading only yaoi/bl/shounen ai etc is fetishizing gay men so I don't want them to feel like that.
Doesn't matter if it's a manga a manhwa or a manhua,recommend me a story with a strong female lead,or like ones with cold but smart female leads,"The Lady and Her Butler " is an example,sorry for the high standard, and tnx.