LONG ASS RANT SOZ

People are not as vocal about "sleeping around" when the roles are reversed bc ppl have been conditioned to like the trope of:
The player, unattainable guy that only does casual sex, falls in love and finally settles down for the mc girl (or uke). The girl or uke are usually written as virgins or an average character that "aren't like other girls" but influences and sucks in the "popular male player" who is changed for the better. That's why when you see a seme sleeping around you actually like the fact that he stops for someone he loves and the change is proof of his devotion and loyalty to her/him, when before he never did that.

When the girl or uke is sleeping around it disrupts this common trope and makes people uncomfortable. This also stems from our patriarcle society and how men get away with virtually anything. Guys are seen as "player, legend etc" when he "gets the chicks" whereas women in society are seen as "sluts, whores, dirty etc" when they sleep around and "don't respect their bodies". This also disrupts the idea of the virgin character who is inexperienced and naive.

Also sleeping around implicitly tells us that the player is actually popular because he can get with all these ppl which leads us to believe that many throw themselves at him. This creates an image that deems him cool and amazing in bed and that everyone WANTS him or WANTS to date him. By not dating we are led to believe he is untouchable and undateable so we root for the FL or uke to "change" that part of him and be the "first" to tie him down. This gives the FL/uke a chance to stand out from the crowd and actually makes her/him "special".

In this story the virgin/innocent character is actually the top and the player character is the bottom. Just like what I've written above we want the "player" to change for the mc who needs to be the one to tie him down to actually be "special". But we are getting overly worked up and slut shaming the uke more than we would with reversed roles is because we aren't used to it or haven't been conditioned to excuse it. We get mad and angry that he isn't innocent and a virgin. The roles are just too different. I'm guilty of having this mindset too but I'm working on changing this mindset bc ik it's harmful.

In saying that the uke can do whatever he fucking wants and nobody should really complain bc it is his body and his choice. He did not promise our seme/mc anything and ppl shouldn't be getting mad about him wanting to find pleasure in sex.