I literally spam him at 4am about yaoi, my boyfriend says he's happy to see it. I usually have a hard time expressing my feelings, but not with yaoi. So, he says he's glad that I do it. This probably didn't help your issue, but if you ever need someone to talk about bl or just anything you're struggling with, (anyone reading this actually) I have discord! Just respond to my message and I'll dm you it. Have a great day/night.
This isn't an issue is you and your partner are 18+ though
Yes. I told my ex (when we were still together). He was weirded out at first but he accepted it. He would even play along when i jokingly ship him with other guys.
I wouldn't outright tell my partner that I read yaoi. I'd just ease them I to it like "dude look at this scene in a manga I'm reading it's fucking hilarious", that's actually what I do with my best friend. I don't tell her that I read yaoi but I'll sometimes send her a screenshot of a character and say "look at this man, his tits are bigger than mine". There was this jojo doujin that was recommended to me, there was a panel where Jotaro had arms longer than my lifespan, I thought that it was hilarious so I sent my friend a screenshot of the panel.
Just ease them into it, show them funny parts of the manga you're reading or show a character that was obviously made to be sexually appealing and make a joke about it, so that when they see that you're reading bl they won't think twice about it. In the end, just remember the golden rule: don't confuse fiction with reality.
I've only ever told my brother and my ex friend. If I were to date someone, idk, I feel like I would still value my privacy a lot, and I don't see the point in telling him/her that I like yaoi because I don't see anything wrong with it but I also don't see the need or why I should bring it up. But if i were to tell them and if they were to be judgemental abt it because they don't know it at first I would just explain what it is and say it is a hobby that I enjoy, if they continue to be unsupportive I would consider breaking up. Theres no point in dating if You're not compatible.
I mean idrc im not hiding what im reading my gf didn't care what I read and all my friends know
Thank you for sharing and please DM that's very nice of you.
Yes.
Yea I get the privacy bit but I'm scared if they ever found out I just don't wanna deal with all that explaining.
This kind of scares me because it's literally my favourite thing to do and it's also my way of coping now but i feel like there is a lot of judgment attached to reading manga and BL at that would be like cherry on the top. I would want to be open with my partner but I'm also scared of the judgment.