To the peeps who came for the yaoi tag and stayed for it too

Cherub December 15, 2020 12:40 pm

I can’t presume anyone’s sexualities here, but as an avid yaoi reader, a lot of the readers are straight females. Most of the time it’s this over the top fetishisation of gay men that attracted them to the story. This isn’t to say everyone who reads yaoi is like this. I know there are gay men, bi women, even lesbians who read yaoi, but this has always been a problems with this community. The fact that people clicked on this manga, knowing very dang well it’s a gender bend and josei expecting mostly yaoi scenes, kind of proves this point of the community over fetishising gay men and their relationships. To make it clear, yes, josei genderbends do tend to end in a yaoi couple, but the matter of the fact is, gender bend is a fetish in itself. I personally don’t understand wanting it to be all yaoi, as a bi women especially. Not to mention there are TONS of quick paces yaoi with similar art styles and half baked plots. Just saying, if you’re offended by people saying you’re fetishising gay men, that’s a you thing, not a me thing.

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    krayzy December 15, 2020 12:54 pm

    agree tbh

    NotRinRin December 15, 2020 1:17 pm

    I'm a bisexual female into gay or straight anime men but i'm completely fine with straight shipping/ smut ლ(´ڡ`ლ)

    Aishiteruu December 15, 2020 1:19 pm

    RIGHTT look at 5 dislikes from ur comments declining the fact that what you said is true

    bunni December 15, 2020 1:20 pm

    yeah I agree

    AlicesWh0reH0use December 15, 2020 1:24 pm

    I need to make a comment here cause this is a conversation I've had recently with 3 separate guys. I am a female that is attracted to two men together and I have been since I stumbled upon Yaoi at the age of 11 it's always been a thing in my life. Recently I've had an.... argument? He was angry not me anyway with a gay male online that told me I was sick for fetishizing him a gay male. So I asked two of my friends who are also gay about it one I trade Yaoi stories with constantly and the other isn't into it but knows I read them. The friend I trade stories with said he didn't care obviously we've been trading stories for awhile the other said he didn't care either cause he never felt in any way shape or form that I was fetishizing him. Cause I wasn't it's not like I see a gay couple on the street and assume I know who and how they are just cause I read yaoi. At the end of the day these are fictional stories that are yes written for women with a fetish but no one should ever assume it's real it's no different from how tons of porn is made of two women together for men specifically cause it's "Hot" or how black men are constantly fetishized for "Having huge dicks" when every individual person is different or how as a black female myself I've had shit said to me like "I've never been with a black girl before" like I'm some kinda of trophy sad thing is if it's exists in the world someone has a fetish about it that's what's going to happen but if people are coming to yaoi or just manga in general to get that fix without messing up other peoples lives or causing problems who cares? I always say the world has become to much of a sensitive place and you can't like anything anymore cause you'll have a angry mob coming at you for it at the end of the day if you aren't harming others, doing anything illegal or causing problems then let people like or do what they wanna do it's their lives to live not yours. ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭ and if you're offended by that then that's a you problem not me.

    Cherub December 15, 2020 2:09 pm
    I need to make a comment here cause this is a conversation I've had recently with 3 separate guys. I am a female that is attracted to two men together and I have been since I stumbled upon Yaoi at the age of 11... AlicesWh0reH0use

    This proves my point exactly. Just because you have a few gay friends who don’t have a problem with it doesn’t mean every gay person has the same opinion. You’ve currently given me several examples, by which are all fetishising a certain group of people. Just as lesbian porn is commonly fetishised by straight men, gay porn is fetishised by straight women. I don’t think you seem to understand what fetishes are. Porn is made to fulfil a false fantasy people have, and to define a fetish/kink simply, it’s effectively what ever gets you going (sexually). This isn’t a matter of being overly sensitive because this has been a problem with the community for a very long time. The fact that you started your point off with “I am attracted to two men together” literally says all there needs to be said about you and your view points. Not to even mention the willfully ignorant comment, that you so poorly phrased, about how this allows them to get their “fix” (as if it’s a drug) and not hurt other people. At what point did you not stop to reread your response? If somebody is satisfying their need to hurt people by watching rape porn, that is a deep rooted psychological problem. I know you thought you were being clever by turning my last line on me, but you missed a comma, a few words, and oh, not to mention you literally just proved my point with every word you typed in your sad excuse for a paragraph

    Mari December 15, 2020 2:14 pm
    I need to make a comment here cause this is a conversation I've had recently with 3 separate guys. I am a female that is attracted to two men together and I have been since I stumbled upon Yaoi at the age of 11... AlicesWh0reH0use

    I’m not sure what the point of this comment was

    Cherub December 15, 2020 2:23 pm
    I need to make a comment here cause this is a conversation I've had recently with 3 separate guys. I am a female that is attracted to two men together and I have been since I stumbled upon Yaoi at the age of 11... AlicesWh0reH0use

    To simplify what I just said because it’s very evident that you completely missed my point, here’s some examples. Smut, based in high schools meant for adults, is meant to fulfill a high school fetish. Porn that features women with big breasts, meant to fulfill a breast fetish. Another common one, S&M porn, meant to fulfill a sadist’s or masochist’s kink/fetish to dominate or be dominated. Now, since we’ve given you examples, let’s move onto the fetishising of members within the LGBTQ+ community. Lesbian porn, fetishising lesbians. Gay porn, fetishising gays. Transgender porn, where the trans woman tops or the trans man bottoms, fetishising transgender women and men. Now that we’ve cleared that up, here’s where the line can be drawn between simple pleasure of watching and reading porn, and only watching and reading it because it’s that type of porn. Me, as a bisexual woman can watch and read lesbian porn/yuri because women is something I’m attracted to. Now this is where a clear distinction comes in. Me reading yaoi is not fetishising men because rather than being attracted to gay men having gay sex, I’m attracted to men. Now this may be my sadist side coming out, but I also enjoy seeing vulnerable men bottoming in yaois. But in your case, as you’ve pointed out, you’re attracted to gay couples, gay sex. Your main motive and thought process is gay sex = hot/sexy. Your fetish, is yaoi, your fetish is watching and reading gay sex. So, it is in fact a you problem, not a me problem

    notTexas December 15, 2020 2:27 pm
    This proves my point exactly. Just because you have a few gay friends who don’t have a problem with it doesn’t mean every gay person has the same opinion. You’ve currently given me several examples, by wh... Cherub

    I mean, I'm bi and even if I have a girlfriend I don't shit on guys who likes seeing 2 girls together.

    I just believe it's not ok to sexualize a real life couple whatever their gender are to be honest. Don't you think it's kinda hypocrite to come read it and to criticize? You still read it.

    And I don't think this story is really problematic. At the end of the day Rui still love is babe the way they are.

    AlicesWh0reH0use December 15, 2020 2:28 pm
    This proves my point exactly. Just because you have a few gay friends who don’t have a problem with it doesn’t mean every gay person has the same opinion. You’ve currently given me several examples, by wh... Cherub

    You definitely are that same person aren't you?? You have to be can that's all I can think since you're clearly going around causing problems where they don't need to exist? I didn't say that just cause I have a few gay friends that I know how every gay person thinks??? I clearly told you someone was arguing with me about how he thought I was fetishizing him so clearly I know now every gay male approves my point was to say just as not everyone approves not every one is annoyed by the fact either And yes insult my grammar of you realize I really didn't put any punctuation is any of that and not all yaoi has rape??? You haven't read enough if you think that all of them have that in it and yeah is someone is into that it may not be you're thing but some people are into that you can hire people so suprise rape you if that's what you decided to do you clearly haven't listened to enough stuff about the kink community if I wanted to as a black female I could go to a sex clubs and have a white male treat me as a slave which is yes fucked up but some people are into that what I was getting at is you don't get to tell me what turns me on sexually you just don't you don't get to control what I think is sexy just like I don't get to control how you feel about any of this either. But coming to a story that you know is also going to have yaoi in it and getting mad at the yaoi fans for being here is yes within your right BUT also not necessary just like me making a comment back to you (〜 ̄△ ̄)〜 freedom of speech exists so everyone gets to say their piece and as long as you aren't harming people with your actions live your life as you want me reading rape porn if I so chose to is my right to do so as long as I'm not running around raping people and know the difference between a fictional story and reality and what's real and wrong I'm fine porn is porn for a reason it's made to cater to it's viewers sexually yaoi is porn that's all there is to it ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭

    Cherub December 15, 2020 2:30 pm
    I mean, I'm bi and even if I have a girlfriend I don't shit on guys who likes seeing 2 girls together. I just believe it's not ok to sexualize a real life couple whatever their gender are to be honest. Don't yo... notTexas

    To you too, you completely missed my point. Read the original post again, then the replies to the other person. This has absolutely nothing to do with this manga but rather the people who came here purely because it was yaoi and “Oo gay couple”

    notTexas December 15, 2020 2:30 pm

    I think it's more problematic when people wants yaoi where there's no place for it to happen.
    No Holes Barred for exemple.

    AlicesWh0reH0use December 15, 2020 2:32 pm
    To simplify what I just said because it’s very evident that you completely missed my point, here’s some examples. Smut, based in high schools meant for adults, is meant to fulfill a high school fetish. Porn... Cherub

    You say that like humans have a choice in what they are sexually into????

    AlicesWh0reH0use December 15, 2020 2:34 pm
    I think it's more problematic when people wants yaoi where there's no place for it to happen.No Holes Barred for exemple. notTexas

    How is it not Kent to be here???? He's a dude he's trying to turn back into a dude his friend is sleeping with him and he's falling for him but at the end of the day he's still a dude and just cause he caught feelings as a chick doesn't mean once he's a guy again those feelings will go away??? That's not how emotions work once he's a guy again he will still love his best friend and vice versa so I don't get what you mean

    Cherub December 15, 2020 2:35 pm
    You definitely are that same person aren't you?? You have to be can that's all I can think since you're clearly going around causing problems where they don't need to exist? I didn't say that just cause I have ... AlicesWh0reH0use

    Funny how you say freedom of speech then proceed to get upset at me for speaking my opinion and the genuine concerns of the LGBTQ+ community. Funny how you bring up yaoi rape when I never even brought that up, not to mention I have over 900 reads and reading over the span of many years. And yes, I will point out your grammar and lack of punctuation because; first of all, makes it stupidly hard to decipher what you’re trying to express, and secondly, you think you’re making valid arguments when all you’re doing is ignoring everything I had to say

    Cherub December 15, 2020 2:35 pm
    I think it's more problematic when people wants yaoi where there's no place for it to happen.No Holes Barred for exemple. notTexas

    Regardless of whether or not one is MORE problematic than the other, doesn’t mean it’s still not problematic

    Cherub December 15, 2020 2:38 pm
    You say that like humans have a choice in what they are sexually into???? AlicesWh0reH0use

    I don’t even know what to say to you because you’re really out here trying to validate fetishising gay men, especially when you are in no position to have your opinion taken into consideration. Just from the way you talk alone, you sound like you’re not even old enough to be reading yaoi.

    notTexas December 15, 2020 2:39 pm
    To you too, you completely missed my point. Read the original post again, then the replies to the other person. This has absolutely nothing to do with this manga but rather the people who came here purely becau... Cherub

    Ahhhh yeah I get what you mean then !

    Cherub December 15, 2020 2:41 pm
    You say that like humans have a choice in what they are sexually into???? AlicesWh0reH0use

    To a certain extent, yes. So, by this, I’ll take it that you think pedophilia is completely okay because they just can’t help being sexually attracted to minors. Oh, and people who are attracted to animals are tots cool too because they can’t help it. Ah, how could I forget this one too, being attracted to necrophilia is 100% aye okay, because like you said, they don’t have a choice. Okay, cool, thanks for clearing it up for me that you have no idea what you’re talking about

    Cherub December 15, 2020 2:45 pm
    Ahhhh yeah I get what you mean then ! notTexas

    Ah, thanks for rereading it and going through the thread, very rarely do people do so ( ̄∇ ̄")