I'm scared of this too :( I really want to peg a boy, and I find it really gross thinking ...

12AMthoughts_ December 15, 2020 3:53 am

I'm scared of this too :( I really want to peg a boy, and I find it really gross thinking about a guy staring/touching me as a top and being the fucking one me, I think my body dysmorphia plays into that but I also just find it way more attractive when a guy is more feminine, and where I can take the lead. I'm an introvert though, and the people surrounding me are not people who would be okay with this, so I don't even know how I'm supposed find someone I love whose willing to do this without me being more outward. I feel like I'll never be able to express these desires and it makes me really sad :c I hope I'll be okay with doing "normal" sex because I haven't been in a relationship yet and haven't really thought about it until recently but when I imagine it I'm really not okay with it

Responses
    Anierin December 15, 2020 4:10 am

    You'll find someone someday. It is kinda interesting tho that some of you find it interesting.

    Onety one December 15, 2020 6:02 am

    Its the fact that i relate to this to the T. I am outward but i turn many away cuz im so dominant i should say. But im generally simply asexual though i do like more feminine males. So dont worry eventually one shall come.(๑•ㅂ•)و✧

    chimmy December 15, 2020 6:31 pm

    guuurl this scared me bc i thought u spilled out my thoughts lol

    i do wanna be in a relationship too and i like fem/soft guys better bc i get scared of being dominated in "that" way, idk why. Like yea i'd flirt around but when the guy actually shows interest, i'd pull away immediately. It's prolly why im still single and it's rly confusing even for myself but i just cant help it... It's like a defense mechanism of some sort. I'd like a guy who wouldnt mind exploring this kinda stuff (a switch) but no one seems to be rly that way anywhere near me

    Betty09 December 17, 2020 7:09 am

    I think that a lot more men are into pegging than you think. Keep in mind that toxic masculinity is a thing a lot of men/people have to deal with. If a man shows interest in pegging people around him will automatically ask him if he's gay (even though those 2 things have nothing to do with each other)
    My best advice is to find the BDSM community in your area. A lot of men who like pegging go there to find women/femmes who are dominant and want to peg men. Neither one of you needs to be sadistic or masochistic to feel comfortable in the community. Plus you get to learn a lot about being authentically yourself and have others respect that. You never have to have "normal" sex if you dont want to. ("Normal" is overrated to be honest) if you have any questions let me know... to be frank I'm just entering the BDSM community myself so I still have a lot to learn but so far I have nothing but praise