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Also there are consequences to not following the safe word in the community, locally alt least. Organizers of events and like shop owners and stuff have names of folks who are not welcome from passed abuses. In my experience it's the safest sexual community because all the vetting.
I hope I made sense.(⊙…⊙ )
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I know this isn't related but which do u think I am a sadists or a masochist, I mean I would love to be chain up handcuffs and dominated and all different kinds things but I also think I would love to tie someone up and dont stop until there crying a complete mess and melting under me but this is for future reference I haven't really tried any of that yet after all am just 17I dont even know my sexuality soo I just say that am bi bc I cant choose soo pls tell me what u all think
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following what kdn1315 said, the bdsm community is pretty safe in general since people take alot of precaution with regards to meeting and 'playing' with new people, unlike I guess simple hookups. Usually limits are discussed and negotiated before a session so both parties know what they're getting into, as trust is important esp during more dangerous play. In that sense, if someone doesn't listen to your limits, they're trash and not worth your time, that would essentially be non-consensual.
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no need to put a simple label on your sexuality, we're all fluid and changing in our lives. It is totally normal and valid to have tendencies in both or any direction. You can be both dominant and submissive. If you'd like you can do a bdsm test to get an idea of what kind of things you might be into.
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from what you have described, you are probably a switch! i'm a switch too; basically i like being on both sides depending on who my partner is and what i'm in the mood for. these are some resources you could check out:
https://bdsmtest.org/select-mode
https://www.domsubliving.com/
there are also lots of books written on the subject. if you take time to do proper research so that you what you are interested in and what the community is like, you can better prepare yourself mentally, emotionally, and physically before your first experience
as someone who plays bdsm irl this manga is quite accurate in its depiction of the relationships and methods. props to the author for doing actual research.