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Imo, you cant really dictate a person not to like this or that. Everybody has their own preferences so its okay to enjoy them but like you need to be discrete so it doesnt make others uncomfortable. (=・ω・=)

also when I mean yaoi, I don't necessarily mean smutty ones, I mean just BL in general!

as long as you're not one of those people who go 'damn straight manga sucks, this is why i only read yaoi bc its spicier' or some shit under other mangas, you'll be fine. if you read bl and enjoy it, go ahead. it's literally why most of it is written: to be enjoyed by a female audience.

Enjoying yaoi and thinking it is hot is okay. I personally say people are okay to like whatever they want as long as they aren't being directly offensive.
Personally I say fetishizing goes too far is when you get creepy with the fangirling.

ahhh I see, I would agree w you! I would say ppl can like or enjoy whatever they want just as long as they don't hurt anyone? I'm not sure how to explain it but yea!

idk imo I enjoy bl just like how I enjoy straight stories. I think an example of fetishizing mlm is when the shipper shits on straight and thinks mlm is superior and just full of smex

it gets creepiest if you become shipping real life people or commenting shit like 'uke/seme' in people's social medias. that's some overboard fetishing.

Yess, exactly. There's a limitation to everything so yeah lets be mature enough to set boundaries and respect others (▰˘◡˘▰)

Mostly are unfortunately. This screenshot I took from an episode of Japanese fujoshis on an episode of Gaycation made me go wtf. http://www.mangago.zone/home/photo/9114912/

I get confused as to why ppl think it's homophobic too? and yes, it's important to respect and try understanding others opinions! (๑•ㅂ•)و✧

oh yea, I do not hate on other genres at all and ppl who do are very annoying! I wished ppl understand that everyone's different.. I love yaoi but I also try to expand my liking of other genres in mangas/manhwas/etc!

That's easy to explain. Fetishizing = homophobic.

I get so mad whenever someone mentions that it's fetishizing. In some cases, it is, and that is when you not only fetishize 2d gay men but real men irl, and they don't even have to be gay. Something like, "ayo dude Kyle and Parker are totally gay for each other! You think they bang each other??" The next thing is whether you only read yaoi for smex scenes, and 'get into it' with it. So, as long as you don't fetishize real men and only read yaoi for the smut, you're good. Some people say yaoi is only for gay men to read, no! Yaoi was actually designed for women to read because women don't want to project themselves, as they do in shoujo. Hope this clears up the minds of those who think yaoi is fetishizing. （/TДT)/

Nope, there's actually a reason that many girls prefer yaoi over some straight stories, yaoi is easier for girls to enjoy since while reading straight romances we tend to even subconsiously imagine how we'd react to a man doing those things which means a lot of straight romances seem way cringier while reading yaoi you can focus on their relationship since you're less likely projecting yourself into the mc, second of all, it's a little taboo, anybody reads straight romances while chances are, if you're reading a bl, chances are you have read one or were looking for one, meaning not everybody reads yaoi. And finally, it allows you to see men being vulnerable, many straight manga's characters go by the stereotypical gender norms while there is hardly any such thing in yaoi, making it very refreshing. As long as you know you're not fetishizing bl it's completely ok.

Ahhh! yes, this is also a problem I see occasionally as well.. it makes me and I'm sure others uncomfortable, especially when they're straight or in a relationship already..

ahhh, thank you for this! I totally understand, it all makes total sense know that you explain the relationship between yaoi and the female readers! thank youuu :)

I don't fetishize bl too but it doesn't mean that I'm a homophobic person mwehehe

That's you're internalized misogyny talking if you're cringing. You're basically putting women on higher standards when it comes to romance.

thank youuu!! I like BL for the story & characters for the most part, the steamy moments are just a plus, I just don't necessarily read yaoi for just the smut! I agree with everything you said, and it does clear up my confusion! ヾ(☆▽☆)

Ill just add it here. Its because fetishizing gay(including other genders) people is like disregarding their dignity. Its like you treat them like an object which you shouldnt be. I think this also applies to races. Like when fetishizing black people equates to being a racist.