If someone treats you differently because you’re gay, they’re homophobic. From one queer person to another, I’m sorry you have to deal with that : /
Don't worry, as you get older you'll become more relaxed about it. I'm not gay but I had my deal of rejection in life. There's a reason for why we're born the way we are, so we should accept ourselves and don't focus on people who don't.
hm, I think rather than it coming naturally with age, this kind of loneliness only gets better when u meet other queer people. At least personally, if anything I think my resentment and fear of my extremely homophobic family got worse with age as I began to really come to realize the severity of the situation I was unfairly put in. (Ignorance is bliss and such)
If you meet any fellow queer people (online and irl, but be safe!) I highly recommend trying to get to know them, you’d be surprised how much better it feels to be surrounded by similar people! it can be hard to talk about the things you go through with people who haven’t gone through the same thing, so ranting to my fellow bisexual friends has always pulled me out of really depressing and dangerous times. if we’re gonna cry we might as well cry together right lol?
If you want to talk more about this kind of thing or just rant, feel free to message me on here, I’m always glad to support my fellow queers in anyway I can :)
I'm bi. There was this one time someone joked about me being lesbian and one girl friend of mine started to look uncomfortable. I didn't think people would react that strongly given how open the world was lately, so I felt real shocked. Like my heart sunk and my body felt heavy.. Fortunately, I'm bi so I just brushed it off and said I like men. But holy shit.. This story just reminded me of that time..
I've been avoiding this love thing like a plague because one wrong step and I'd be hurt so bad..
yeah, i still remember when I first came out when I was in middle school and I was shocked how many people were weirded out, especially considering my close friends also turned out to be bi ( I guess that’s why we got along so well ).
It can be a bit frightening, but as long as it doesn’t put you in any danger and you feel comfortable, I’d recommend being open with your sexuality; you might end up meeting someone else who’s bi and down to date ! You run the risk of breaking your heart no matter you sexuality, but people like us have lower chances of meeting potential partners, so being more open increases our chances of meeting someone. one of the two has to come out for a pair queer people to know they have a chance to date after all :)
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that being said, there are some basic rules I try to follow when coming out. ( you may not need them but I’ve seen some younger kids on here putting themselves in potential danger and it worries me :/ )
I’m really serious when I say be safe about it! do NOT come out at home until you’re able to live on your own (worst casenario you can end up dealing with domestic abuse ) or to anyone who gossips to people who might inform your family. if someone is religious or republican/ right leaning, I’d recommend holding back. even if they support you they might inform other people in the same crowd who don’t like queer people.
forgot to mention but: if you live in an area with a LOT of people who are religious/republican/etc I wouldn’t come out at all. it’s a heavy burden but even in America you still run the risk of some dumb kids killing you for being queer. Always make sure you’re safe when coming out. some people are okay with queers, others will do everything they can to hurt you. safety comes first,
i ended up crying during a few moments because they hit so close to home. i don’t think i’ll ever be able to come out to my family. at first i thought it was gonna be pretty easy but now i’m dreading the moment they ever find out. it’s not that i think they’re homophobic but how they’ll treat me. i came out to my sister because we were doing ‘a secret for a secret’ thing and i came out. she doesn’t treat me any different but whenever i compliment a girl, she gives me a look, as if i’m interested in them and i hate that. anyways sorry for telling my problems to the world. i’m so happy the yamato has such supporting friends and family. this made it into my top ten even though it’s not finished. i’m also really glad author-san didn’t rush it at all, i love the pace that their relationship is going at. i’m so excited for the next chapter :)