Am I like the only one who lowkey wished this happened to me? Like ofc its done by someone...

wtf? that’s not normal and it’s shouldn’t be a “kink”. rape is a serious topic that shouldn’t be in your sex life what so ever. also i meant to dislike your comment

I hope you do realize its a type of play, like an actual one. Its called rape play and a lot of people like it. That doesn't mean rape is a good thing, rape is still rape even if in the beginning it had concent. If I the bottom said my safe word during the scene and my top did not respect that I was over with the scene and didn't want it anymore then it would be considered rape. I also know its a very serious topic especially as I did have to go to court as a child to testify against my own father. Its a very hard and traumatic thing to go though. That doesn't mean there isn't room to have kinks, I think that type of play is something I enjoy. Its as simple as that, if both me and my partner give constant consent through the whole scene then let us.

You would honestly be shocked at how many people get off to this type of scene. That is of course if there is trust in the partner to know when to stop and what boundaries to not cross. Like say my partner had a daddy kink, I who has been very damaged by the man who was suppsed to be my father cant handle that type of talk in the bedroom. So I warn all my partners that is one of my boundaries and if they don't respect it then this isn't going to work. I do understand where you are coming from, this type of scene play isn't like the normal bdsm or kink things you'd see. Please remember that people have their own likes and dislikes. To me as long as there is consent on both sides I feel like its up two those individuals to decide what they are comfortable with and what not.

I hope this doesn't come off too rude, but really I just have a degrading kink and that feeds into this rape scene I and many other partners like to do.

Adding to this i can link you some mangas i personally like that describe the type of kink I have. They are really good reads especially if your into that type of stuff

i am not going to read whatever you said cuz even if it is “consensual” rape role play that still doesn’t make it okay. i also have a degrading kink but rape in any kind of form in wrong please learn more about about how it is harmful and stop with whatever kind of bullshit you are fantasizing about because it’s so fucking wrong and is a mockery towards rape survivors

Its not a mockery, its quite rude honestly I understand that its not something to make light of. Especially as a child rape victim i personally understand how it feels to be violated without warning or your consent. However that doesn't mean that I dont like the idea of my partner forcing me to have sex with them. Of course I know it's play so it doesn't send me into panick attacks. But if it does get to the point I cant handle it and I have memory's flooding in we stop and the scene is over. This 'fantasy' you claim that I have is honestly just me wanting to be humiliated and fucked by some 'unknow' person. You don't get to judge how people want their tops or scenes to go.

Its like saying those who have a piss kink are wrong and need to get help. We all have things we like that could be considered gross. In my case along with many other our kink is big forced into having sex by out dom. This doesn't make rape okay but nor is it making light of the situation both men and women face. We just like that dynamic that doesn't mean we support those who rape others without consent and rules and terms. Those who are okay with rapists are the scum of the earth and need to be taught that its not okay.
If your not okay with this type of stuff I would highly advise staying away from scenes that are more than just the regular bdsm stuff. There are many things out there that people like that you may not. Remember its all about consent and no judgment in the kink and bdsm world.

i am sorry that you were a rape victim i really am and i am sure you went through a lot as most of my family members were raped. it can 100% be an aftermath of being raped but it’s not something that should be normalize. if you have it please seek professional help it’s not okay. i don’t and will not consider rape a kink so i am not kink shaming you what so ever. i am not saying it’s your fault for having those fantasies because like i said it can be aftermath of being raped. i am just saying that rape in any form is wrong and shouldn’t be seen as a kink or a fantasy and if you have it you need to either learn about how it’s harmful or seek professional help. in the eyes of justice it is wrong in any kind of form.

I know its not from my trauma, I just personally like to be degraded and have control taken away from me. I get that you think that rape is bad no matter what but o need you to understand. I and many others like the thought of it, but as long as they don't actually rape us. There is a fine line between a scene playing out and actual rape. If you ever want to see or even try to understand us then look at storys that show you what we like. That describes what we enjoy to have. I honestly think its very closes minded of you to think that this stems from my past when its just something I've developed without that. I am not a victim of my past im a survivor, my birth father does not dictate all my decisions. If you must also know, the type of play is something that has to take lots of planning, if my dom does not take careful steps and prepare for anything to go wrong. That's when I know its not safe and could end up as an actual rape. I've been told my a sex friend if mine who is also into this that the dom they had at the time didn't listen to the safe word and kept going. This is considered a true rape, however he and I who both like this type of play. Sorted it out as he still liked the idea of it. So we planned, and it went to how we planned. He had full control of the situation even though he was the sub at the time. If I did anything that spooked him he'd say out yellow light word. That would mean slow down and check but also continue. When we were done he was happy he could still enjoy the thing he liked. We often do this scene, he and switch places too. He and I just enjoy it and thats that, its something we consider amazing. I'm going to link a one shot, I know you probably won't read it but it accurately shows what and how out scenes go. I truly hope you read it and understand how we feel about this. You don't have to like it, just respect it.

http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/souyuu_ganbou_no_hanashi/

i don’t think my opinion would change very much but i hope you do well in the future it seems like you have been through a lot. tbh i really hope you come to overcome that “kink” but as long as it’s not harming innocent people it’s fine. best wishes love! （＾ν＾）

Your initial comment came off as sexualizing Rape. Also this was clearly not CNC, there was no prior establishment of consent whatsoever and they were not acting out a scene this was a basic violation of consent and this was a shit story. You should understand how harmful it is to try to pass off instances like this as CNC, that kink is already seen with a stigma and it is a delicate subject within and outside of the BDSM community and kink community; you can’t just say something is CNC because it soothes your conscience. This was terrible, there was NO consent here, there’s no arguments about that.

In my initial comment I just said I wished someone did this to me, I even explicitly said of course if it was done by my lover or sex partner. But whatever go off. And I clearly understand that this manga is not doing a scene, however you come in here starting a great debate about whether or not I need help all cause I want someone to do this to me. I would not let a random stranger do this to me, that was the whole point of my comments. However clearly you just can't understand that. My original comment had just stated I wanted someone to do that to me and thats it. Dont try and twist my words into something its not. I'm going to stop replying now as this honestly is stupid. You clearly don't understand anything I've been trying to say and have even started to start another discourse. Never once had I said this manga was good so please stop. If your not going to enter a discussion such as this with an open mind then I do not want to continue. And for the love of God please stop telling me to get help. That's like me telling you to get help for your degrading kink. Bye hope you have a wonderful week

Sorry, I didn’t mean to like, I meant to dislike

I don’t know if you think you’re replying to the same person but I’m not so let’s get that correct. I CLEARLY nowhere said anything negative about CNC and you found a way to be offended somewhere, it’s not my responsibility to clear that up for you. I simply stated it is harmful to try to pass this off as CNC your comment literally “this makes me realize how much I have a rape kink” which is CLEARLY sexualizing. I didn’t kink shame nor did I say EVER say that you need to get help, if you had bothered to take a quick look at who you were replying to you’d see that because the previous person who DID kink shame you ended the conversation and no longer replied. I didn’t tell you to get help, didn’t kink shame, simply stated this is harmful.

Also you came at me very aggressively when I did not award you the same rudeness but no harm done. Be safe, consent is key, and have fun always!

I don’t know why people are being so rude to you about this??? You specifically said that you’d like to do this if it was with someone you had consented to do it with in your initial post and even clarified further in replies. Whatever happens with you and your partner consentually in bed is your business. Kink shaming you and telling you you “need help” when you practice consent and use safe words with your partner is just harmful and rude.

Also you never said any opinion over the P5 comic itself. You did not compare the comic scenario itself to being CNC AT ALL and is very acquisitory to say you did, especially after being clear in comments multiple times how you practice safety/consent and how you know how serious real rape is because you went through it yourself. That’s a big leap in logic to say that you said the comic was CNC in your initial comment when what you really said was basically “i’d like to do this kind of role-play scenario but with consent and someone i trust of course!” which has nothing to do with whether it was an ok thing in the P5 comic.

I thank you, in all honesty my last reply to the person was done at 3 in the morning. I was sleepy and grumpy cause I wasn't able to sleep. I didnt handle it the best as I was thinking I was replying to the same person from before hand. I was just so tired of being told something I'm not and having my words twisted to seem like they were something they were not. All I wished to do with my original comment was to show those who understand what I like my opinion. Yet they took that as me appropriating rape. I practice consent and if there is a lacking of consent on both sides in my sex life I will refuse to do any type of play.

It really does make me happy to see your comment, cause it seemed no matter how hard I tried to make it a point what I practice is safe, sane and consensual. I never once said rape was okay and even said its wrong as its true. Yet they didn't understand and I was done. I just wanted to help educate them in this topic but sometimes no matter how you explain it people won't listen and pick out the bad parts of your sentence.

I think it was understandable to have gotten frustrated at that point considering how long you had repeatedly explained yourself and try to educate and were still being harshly looked down on. You came off as considerably polite all things considered.

And you know I read through that all during midday and didn’t notice it was a new person right away either until it was mentioned. It’s easy to miss when the convo goes that long and people don’t have icons to tell the difference between them.

I’m glad my comment lifted your spirits a bit! I wanted to leave a comment so you knew someone was being understanding and leave you with something positive! And also based on what I saw from the likes earlier it seemed that a lot of people understood you in your initial post. Hope you have a good day <3

is that joscarl in ur pfp

I feel exposed no one has once actually gotten it, but yes it is

I apologize for all the idiotic remarks in these replies, your obviously stating that you would like to have a CNC relationship with your partner where you obviously consent before hand, but the play is “non consensual” Also if I may add this is FICTION none of it is true which is also a point as to where all of this was blown out of proportion.

I respect you and what you stand for :)