Don't worry you're not the only one whose experiencing that
You are not alone ╥﹏╥ I feel the same way. 2D boys have raised my expectations to such an extent that I no more pay attention to ordinary people around. That is why I am still single lol
in my opinion and experience, it will not affect you in the long run.. if you are in age 15-23 it is normal that your views and expectation when it comes to love is very high and unrealistic. because it is new experience for you so somewhat you want the perfect love with a perfect lover.. but as you grow older and live in harsh society (lol) your standard and expectation will change slowly.. you will realize that looks is not important but the characteristic of the person you will choose to be with you for the rest of your life...
i've been in and out of relationship since i was 16- 20, have a one night stand at the age of 22 (which for me is a good thing because that is the time a realize that no matter how i like it in my fantasy it really doesnt make me feel good about myself in reality) so i stop having insignificant relationship and start focusing on my work.. and after 6 years of being single i met the guy who really loves me.. so don't be in a rush when it comes to relationship.. just take it slow and enjoy life..
and the reason why that kind of stories are out there is because it's like an escape from the real world.. so even if the reality is not the same at least in you imagination you are this and you are that.. i think there is nothing wrong in having an active fantasy.. i have a fantasy that is borderline illegal but that doesnt mean i want it in my reality.. it's just that sometimes things that is forbidden gives us a ticklish feeling in the heart lmao...
i will just share this: when i was young (10 - 14) i have a very vivid fantasy.. and i started to write a diary about it.. like i believe that my parents are not my real parents and that one day someone from rich family will come to our home to tell me that i am their heir, and that i have a hidden power trapped in my ordinary body (lol) and that i like a certain anime character and i want to make a family with him.. lmao.. just imagine my embarrassment when my older sister read my diary and told to everyone what i wrote in it.. i was even labeled crazy at that time lol.. my parents even throw all my collection of poster and laminated cards.. i cried like my heart was broken and wished my 'real' parents would show up that day and take me away
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im older now so i think that make us normal in our own way? lmao
sorry for the long post lol..
What you are feeling is actually the charm of fiction. Being drawn to fictional worlds is fun and even rewarding in many ways, and I personally don't think there is anything inherently wrong with "wanting to be transported in a different world" as you described. In my experience, most people who enjoy and/or create fiction, do so with the feelings and mindset that you are describing.
If this is bothering you, and I am assuming that you are looking for an opinion or an advice since you are writing this post here, I would suggest you to bring some variety into your reading. I like reading manga/manhua/manhwa's (or else why would I be here haha) but to be honest, I acknowledge most of them are quite shallow in terms of how they approach real life issues. They are fun as light reads, and can be great for creativity or entertainment (or even escape!) Since you seem to enjoy fiction, if you want to establish a more realistic perspective on life, relationships (romantic or otherwise), or our society, I would recommend you to read other literary works of contemporary fiction as well (emphasis on 'as well': this is not to say you have to stop reading manhwas and that they are worthless haha). In fact, too much exposure to anything can have the same effect, the key is balance!
In my opinion, having a critical eye while reading any work of fiction is very important. And it is true that some works can really succeed in creating the so-called "suspension of disbelief" and draw you in so much so that you don't even know what is right or what is wrong anymore but that's not necessarily because they are altering your worldview as a person! They are just succeeding in temporarily placing you in the fictional world that they take place. It sometimes helps me to briefly journal about my current thoughts and first impression on the work that I am reading to figure out my feelings. If you read something that leaves a bad taste in your mouth (that can happen for many reasons: perhaps it is just so different from your reality, or it creates standards that you feel like you cannot live up to, or perhaps because it depicts a toxic relation or maybe it depicts a relationship that is too perfect!!) you can journal about your feelings to pinpoint what is it that makes you feel that way. This will help you develop a critical eye towards literature in the long run. Also,
Reading is amazing, and there is something for everyone out there, so whether it is manhwas or novels, keep reading and keep expanding your horizons <3
Do any others believe that reading manga/manhwa Is giving you unrealistic relationship standards?
Recently I’ve just been thinking that when I think about what a relationship should be....or at least what I want it to be. It’s something out of something I’ve read Or seen.
Mainly 3 different areas:
PHYSICAL LOOKS -which of course is definitely unrealistic to find a man as tall, and hot as some are portrayed in these stories
THE ACTUAL LIVES/STORY: as in....I’m sick of this boring ass world where everything is not exciting anymore....I want to be transported to a different world inside a book where I am the daughter of a “evil” king but he ends up loving me....and I grow up and befriend a cute prince and we grow up together and eventually get together.....and of course the world has magic....in which I happen to posses copious amounts of mana inside me.
Or I am in a world where I can fight dragons etc.
even worlds like solo leveling.....so long as I’m the OP main character lol.
PERSONALITY -which is also drastically different. Your not going to meet your dream man to Will be cold to everyone but you. Or if your into reading manga with some bdsm scenes (or slightLy controlling partner) but you also don’t want that in real life. But reading it makes you like it a bit. (FYI:don’t worry about me. I know the difference between mental abuse in stories vs real life. And I won’t ever let anyone do that to me....I just like it in stories).
It’s even hard to find a guy you just plain loves you....and won’t betray you in some way. I’m not saying I’ll shut myself out from the world. If it happens I’ll try it.
Is this just me??
I hope not.
I just think this world is very boring and every friend I have is in a shitty relationship....or no relationship at all. People let you down. And that’s ok, it’s reality. But....these stories make it seem like something better should be out there.
I just like to loose myself in tvshows and manhwa when I am able too.