gou didn't tell anything because he didn't want to bring it to attention if he's going to reject it anyway. plus he felt troubled as it was his boss' order, which was most likely to get gou on his bad side if he handles it wrong. and akihito literally said with his own mouth the reason he apologized--basically spurting "you're just like them" to a person who was nothing like the other men and did so much for him. it might have been just the heat of the moment but akihito did realize that his words probably hurt gou. empathy is not a bad thing, you know.
the seme first called him spoilt and ignored that the uke was upset that they had to cancel their date thats what i meant by rude. and still just telling him "a superior is asking me to go to an omiai im going over there to cancel we can go out when i get back" wouldnt have been too hard? explaining would have left much less room for misunderstandings and insecurities in the ukes head yk. but ig its not that big a deal its fiction lol.
akihito simply got called out for throwing a tantrum like a toddler who didn't get to go to amusement park because his daddy had to work that day. gou wanted to go on that date just as much, but sometimes there are things to deal with first. and sometimes people need space to deal with their own business. people are allowed to not report every move they make to their partners. whether he didn't want akihito to feel anxious or jealous, or simply didn't want to make a fuss out of it because it was unpleasant for him personally, he decided that akihito doesn't need to know. akihito acted spoiled and ignorant of the possibility that a working adult might have troubles apart from love life. gou might've been a bit harsh with words, but he's a person, not a machine, he was stressed, so he snapped, and apologized for it later. what akihito said to gou was times more rude, and he admitted himself that he was in the wrong and hurt gou, that's some nice personal growth imo.
like i get that and all but not elling your partner youve been set up for an omiai just seems not ok. like idk cuz ive never been in a relationship(shocker ik) but just imagine finding out from someone else that your partner isnt going on a date with you because they were set up on an omiai like id cry(tbf i cry at everything lowkey crying rn at the thought of that aH) that would just be so painful i get that you dont have to share every detail but an omiai doesnt seem like one of those things you should keep to yourself. again ive literally never been in a relationship ive just seen a bunch end bc the two of them never really explained much to eachother which created a lot of insecurities when the uke said sumn like "have you grown tired of me?" that shit hurted bro like its so painful when someone you care for seemingly leaves and i feel that couldve been avoided had the seme just said something like id be upset if a dare was cancelled with no reason given and to find out it was for an omiai and i wasnt told?? wether he was going to reject it or not its still something to mention imo. but thats just my take ig i totally get where ur coming from tho like what the uke said was uncalled for and rude but i also understand why he said it to some extent even if it was worse than what the seme said i sorta understand why its not like he meant it or anything but he was upset and irrational bc of that. i still feel that the seme could have mentioned something so the uke could understand and the whole situation could have been avoided but its doesnt matter ig
okay it's a matter of a perspective i guess? if i, hypothetically, was set for a matching party by my boss, i would not mention it to my partner either. i know my partner has nothing to worry about, and i know i treat it like just another nuisance at work, but i also know human brain tends to overthink, and i'm afraid that my partner would still have thoughts in the back of their head, that there's potential possibility that one day i won't be able to reject my boss' orders and what if it works out between me and my match. even though they actually know i love them to death. telling them would make them feel insecure and restless, and i simply wouldn't have the heart to do that to my partner. i'd rather deal with it quietly and move on.
or for me, i'm extremely possessive, i literally choke on my jealoucy whenever people breath in my bf general direction, so i would hate hearing about any matching parties. i'd rather just not know about it at all.
it's not always that simple that you tell things and go. imo excessive straightforwardness can hurt much more sometimes and might make things worse instead.
if anything, that lady should't run her mouth as she pleases. bringing gou to akihito's house was a nice idea, but the moment she decided she's some sort of a fairy godmother it's become a problem.
I feel like I'd be possessive in a relationship but to me not telling me something like that would make it feel like I have something to worry about yk like oh they kept it a secret from me on purpose that sort of thing would just hurt ig. but that old lady def should not have run her mouth
you are 100% correct in all of these messages and I too was upset when gou was keeping secrets and being an ass out of nowhere??? it was so out of left field and there was no reason kinda left a bad taste in my mouth... they were still cute overall tho
ngl i feel like i was the only one super pissed off when he went to goukon instead of the date he planned with his boyfriend. like he went to reject it but he didnt tell the uke anything??? at all??? he just left??? and he was being rood to the uke before that idk why the uke apologized that one time when the seme was at fault and told him nothing. the rest of the story was cute but ngl that kinda ruined it