i think that this is an interesting impasse. tagami lacks the confidence in himself as the...

i think that this is an interesting impasse. tagami lacks the confidence in himself as the object of tsumugis love because hes up against hiyama - who whilst wont pursue her, makes tagami question if hes good enough for how he portrays his love towards tsumugi.

now we know that tagami loves tsumugi for being kind, confident, and strong. shes also crazy physically attractive to him. however, he cant put this into words and the general idea to people that dont know them is that tagami likes tsumugi for being fat and that alone. i think he fears that tsumugi thinks the same and that shed choose hiyama because hiyama has a different kind of love language to tagamis that is also admirable. personally i think that theyre both great guys even if their love languages are different.

however, this discourse has brought up a very interesting point for tsumugi. tsumugi, whose entire life so far has been shaped by others bullying her for her weight and her coming to love herself regardless, is loved by a man who likes chubby women. does tsumugi love tagami back because shes finally being desired for being fat? doesnt that mean that tagami could be anybody as long as they desired her?

as somebody recovering from similar trauma to tsumugi, id say that its hard to tell from the inside. i dont have a partner but id have similar questions if i did. the way to go about it is to talk about your feelings with your partner...

...but you cant find the words. they cant find their words. and so painstakingly you must think. wait. think. find courage to talk about feelings that youve had to dig out of yourself. spend time and lose time but do so wishing that you didnt.

thats hard man.

to answer tsumugis question, i think that in the beginning she accepted tagami because he desired her, but also because he seemed to be a good person. she may have been insecure but shes not stupid. she loves him because hes kind, thoughtful, goofy, and even if tagami doesnt know it, she understands his love language pretty well.

most interestingly, whilst ive spoken about tsumugi the most, id say that this issue stems from tagamis insecurities.