if a woman transitions to be a man and is gay, that's totally fine. it's more about people saying things like they wish they were a man just so they could have gay sex. those comments are pretty fetishy and that's where it gets problematic. hope that answers the question? I might be able to explain more if you need it
Wlw and mlm are fetishized so much but mlm is in an extreme point. I never heard a guy say "I wish I was a girl so I can squish boobs with another girl" but in every single yaoi that I finish I always have to read "omg!! i wish I was a boy and had a dick, I would stay up all night doing homosexual sex" that's why. Is the fujoshi's fault that now no one can trust a ftm person. I'm not saying you can't read yaoi but at least let that comment stay in your mind and be careful about what you're posting. Disphoria is a real thing that can get you to hurt yourself. It ain't a joke for 12 yo girls obsessed w gay sex. I hope I'm clear. -trans ftm (sorry if I sound cold)
It might be the case that there is more people, ahem, TERFs who see MTF as "men who only want to transition to prey on women".
I agree that the nature of those comments are beyond dumb and disgusting, and I admit I don't like fugos, but blaming them for FTM hate is... unwarranted? In society, fugos are invisible, most people won't discriminate or hate on FTM because they read fugos saying that they would do it because they are bigots.
I agree that younger people should be careful about what they are posting tho
Yes it was careless of me to blame everything of fugos. I understand what you meant and yes there are also other people that think the way you said. This society we're in rn doesn't have any hope in circumstances of respect. I understand what you meant and I don't want to come as rude, thank you for explaining tho
It just doesnt make any sense why someone would transition to be able to have gay sex. Gender Disphoria isnt something exclusive to trans people. A cis woman wouldnt be happy about the idea of living as a man and vice versa, so I find it hard to believe that someone would transition because they fetishize gay people. If a trans guy likes women, he gets called a repressed lesbian and if he likes men, he is a homophobe who fetishizes gay men. If a trans woman likes men, she gets accused of wanting to deceive them and if she likes other women, she gets called a homophobe who fetishizes lesbians. Trans people dont transition for sexual reasons, and I dont have to point to asexual trans people to prove my point. If someone isnt attracted to another persons genitals, thats fine but it doesnt mean that trans people are deceivers and horrible people because they didnt tell everyone whats inside their pants from the get go. Nobody irl gives a shit about fujoshis, and most people dont even know what that means.
Why is it that if a girl wants to be a boy and then is gay, she is blamed cuz people think she just wants to have gay sex? But in this story, I don't see any comments about the guy changing into a girl to have lesbian sex...
I mean, personally I don't care but this one thing always bugged me, so if anyone has some kind of explanation or opinion, care to share?