i dont even think that was truly the case. when you think about it he said himself he was ok with it and even liked it. he just caught feelings and i think its kinda harash the way the dom went about it.
No from the start uke didn't want that type of relation. When seme says "lets not interfere in personal life and just keep it SM", uke thinks why it is like that or how is this diff from dating and decides to try this whole thing which I understand. But all this time he never liked SM yet still went along. And seme didn't knew about this. He broke seme's trust which is a big deal in this whole thing. There is a reason people who are interested in this stuff prefers the same interested partner.
still the reaction was a bit much. Even he said himself in a chapter that he would "try this out" after the first clash of the guy developing feelings. yeah yeah we get that it broke his "trust" but at the same time he found himself indulging in that same thing he didn't want from the relationship. I still think the reaction was a bit much . And if this is the case the bastard dom should completely leave the sub alone and not get jealous. I say this bc some of the story kind of foreshadows the sub and that other dude having something possibly and im having a hunch the dom isnt going to like that. AND on top of that just bc its a dom and sub situation doesnt mean you shouldn't care at all about the person your having sex with. he knew before about his feelings but still dragged it along so i have no sympathy for him just ending it like that.
Idk why you think seme's reaction is a bit too much. Maybe bcoz you are seeing this whole thing as a normal relationship? But they were never in normal relation to begin with. In BDSM world, alot of times feelings aren't involved. This world is based on sexual needs and as long as both sides sexual desire are satisfied personal stuff don't matter. Also I think they both are in SM relationship not DS. And as I said before if uke was so uncomfortable he should have used safe words so seme knows his limit but he never uses it. He is always lost after their play/sex and think if he should continue or not which means he is not enjoying those stuff. As you said he had bad exp in his past that should make him more aware of taking this stuff seriously. I'm sry but that's how BDSM world works. If you want to take this stuff lightly then don't indulge in it. I don't remember seme being jealous so Idk what to say to that
i just feel like anyone who isnt childish would just at least hear people out. and just up and leaving him was shitty. and yes they were in a SM relationship but he did drag it on after the first time he found out he liked him????? thats why im not really on his side. and tbh hes prob going to go back to the sub anyways so idek. just bc your in a bdsm relationship doesnt mean you just can completely take away feelings if your MEETING UP and HAVING SEX. and i never said they had a normal relationship.
Hahaha yes we both know they are going back to each other. I understand your point but in my opinion seme was right . Lets just agree to disagree and enjoy this manga.
First of all, uke didn't go looking for that seme in a bar ..he was working and seme spotted him.....second, seme knew uke liked him from chapter 12 , why the hell he came back when he knew uke had feelings
Exactly...people can't compartmentalise their feelings from sex that easily just because they're in bdsm relationship
Did we read the same manga? Have I not made it clear in my previous comment that seme is a part of bdsm world and he thought uke was a part of that too that's why he continued their relation. If uke would have came clear that he wasn't interested in this type of relation,seme would have no interest in approaching him. My bad, I forgot seme approached uke first but it was for one night stand and next morning he asked uke if he liked this type of stuff and would like to continue this type of relationship and uke agreed to it. He repeatedly told uke to use safe words and tell him if he feels uncomfortable and more importantly that he cannot date. In chp 14 where u said he knew uke liked him, I think seme was kinda in denial. But all this time he is under impression that uke is from the same world. That's why there was a chance that they might actually date but the moment he knew uke had no interest in bdsm he realize they both are from diff world and he told him to stop contacting. TRUST IS THE MAIN PART OF BDSM. y'all are saying its not a big thing but it is especially when seme has made it clear that he was looking for that kinda relationship from the start.
And no people can differentiate their feelings from sex. One night stand, fuck buddies and bdsm falls under that category. And if you cannot differentiate it then stay away from it
The problem of seme is not that uke is not an M so there's not even a possibility of dating ...seme's problem is just dating. Dating reminds him of his past mysterious ex who (for some reason probably for unrequited emotions) killed himself ,and seme thinks if uke experience heartbreak over him he will kill himself as well. His reaction was too exaggerated in ch 19 cause he already knew uke had feelings but instead of STAYING AWAY from uke and staying away from repeating his mistake with his ex , he gave him time to sort out his feelings and then got back to him immediately. Seme even feels jealousy and irritation. Jealousy when he separated uke and journalist's hands , irritation cause he was pissed uke ignored his calls. So seme is extremely paradoxical.
Ok I really don't like it when people take BDSM stuff lightly and then go around blaming people who are into that. The seme literally made it clear that he was just into SM stuff so he isn't at a fault yet now he feels like he was abusive to uke. Uke should have made it clear that he was looking for a romantic stuff and not SM. Or atleast should have use safe words which is the main key of this whole thing. The whole "why are you not normal" or secretly hoping your crush would leave BDSM world for you is really stupid and selfish. If you want a romantic relationship don't go looking into this type of clubs/bar.