I´m kind of confused now but are you maybe searching for Koi to wa Yobenai?
But even in your confusion YOU ARE A GENIUS!!! Thank you so so much this is it!!! I was so confused on the details because of how long ago I read this manga. Can't believe I forgot the 1st seme (saved with the kitty) I am re reading it right now (needed to make sure this one was it!) but had to stop to say THANKS!!! I am seriously so happy!
^^You´re welcome;)
So I realized with the help of Pink Popsicle that the yaio manga that I want to know the name of & tried to describe was actually 2 different manga's that I mixed up together! (Sorry, but at least I was able to get the name of 1 of them!!) So I want to try again with what I am absolutely sure of: centers on 2 potential couples, the 2nd couple seme is getting no where with his uke and befriends the main uke. Uke1 isn't confident (cute face hidden behind glasses and not quite fashionable-though not bad either) so Seme2 takes him out for a makeover. (Suit, hair, new glasses and a nice dinner) the 2nd uke takes notice of uke 1 and knows its his seme handy work and tells the 1st seme that uke1/seme2 are dating, which depresses him. (Misery loves company). This leads the 2 mismatched couples to sleep together (uke1/seme2 & uke2/seme1) but they all realize it was a mistake (real adult like) but this allows the 1st couple to finally express their feeling for one another to move forward. Other things I know: uke1-is shy and inexperienced and I believe works with seme but can't remember much about this seme! Also uke2 is blonde & beautiful & works at a bar that they all seem to frequent after work- don't want to admit his feelings due to the loss of his wife (and child?). He comes off as indifferent (though there are small things that shows the chinks in his armor-i.e. telling seme1 they should get together since the other two where!) while 2nd seme is some big shot corporate dude and really smooth. He doesn't put his life on hold for uke2 (sometimes flirts in front of him, maybe wanting a reaction?) due to the rejection but he never stops going after him either. Things I am not all the way sure of...Uke 1 & 2 and Seme2 may have all been friends already,I think the 1st seme is a pervert, into the toys and stuff and that the 2nd couple may have been in a sexual relationship already...I hope this clearer than the 1st post for this question... As always guys, THANKS!!!!