well i dont hate dubcon (it depends on the context). i REALLY wish more smutty stories had enthusiastic consent as part of the Kink so to speak. like a person explicitly saying what they want or how good it feels or in the throes of passion just letting their enjoyment AAALL out. like that is Also sexy and is...painfully rare. albeit less so in BL or Yaoi comics but still not as common as it should be imo.
Well all in all it is depend to the persons involved and since mostly many cases of unconsensual acts happens between the character in BL or Yaoi and will eventually those pair end up being together. But as for me It is much more sexy and passionate when both parties agreed to do it.And yes The total enjoyment is there.
Shiro: I want to eat you up.
Makoto: Eat me up shiro.
Really love it when it so consensual