There is a difference between a punishment and a funishment. While every relationship is different is a DS relationship where there are set and specific rules that a sub must follow (like no master bating for example). Again, every relationship is different but my purposefully going against the rules a sub will usually get a punishment, not a funishment. Punishments are not meant to be fun and the stricter the dom the stricter the punishment will be. Just another thought, wveything else you said is correct. Also I’m not the best at explaining so I hope i did ok
that definitely makes sense and thank you for explaining. i know that disobeying means being punished in a way the sub doesn't enjoy but puts them in their place from continuing to act out. however, the sub in this story has just started understanding his "second gender," in my opinion, the dom should have approached the first punishment differently. anyways i'm just acting biased based on my own experiences but thank you very much for helping me :))
I think, the manga represents this way, becasue in this the sub/dom thing is not a kink. I mean, when someones have their first time together, they know, what would happan, and what to do, but in reality, they don't. You know the mechanism and stuff, but not the exact thing, you just try and with time, you learn. They just don't have the knowledge yet. The sub didn't even know the safeword thing, he didn't know that there should be one or two. He is kind of an idiot, and I live for it. :D The dom have more knowledge, but I think, he wasn't exactly aware what it means to be a dom and what and how he should do the thing in the right way. He has the urge, he has the feeling, and he is a teenboy, who wants everything immediately. The word "instincts" is a nice way to describe it. In first, they just went with it, now they do it consciously and in a safe way.
this story is very interesting and had great potential but this is not how a true sub/dom relationship works. especially if this is seen as a second gender and not a kink, it should be written better. there should be proper consent, a safe word, a dom's job is to make the sub feel comfortable and safe, a sub should want to be dominated not be forced. you start slowly and learn about each other's limits and comforts, punishment should be arousing and fun, not something that scares you. this story is still interesting it just upsets me how the author isn't properly representing how this relationship works.