My problem with these plot and what frustrates me to no end is how they speak about sexuality and never the privileges that come with it or when they do they undermine the experience of being gay equating it with whatever the struggling “I’m straight” character is experiencing. You don’t have to necessarily date every gender to be bisexual, pansexual, demisexual Etc. The issue is when it’s repeatedly voiced “you are the exception” not I am opening myself up to the idea of I can fall in love while ignoring gender and loving solely on personality or the individual isn’t presented as the explanation for the seme. He’s completely “straight” and wouldn’t even consider another man this is just a blip.In that case he really does self identify as straight but maybe a strict Kinsey 1. If we broke up tomorrow I’d only date/ marry women from then on exclusively.It just comes across as the standard gay/bi experiencing their straight crush indulging in their often unrequited fantasy because the chances of this opportunity are slim to none. And only furthers that narrative of straight men are the ultimate romantic partner for queer men and it’s just exploitative and another fetishization can of worms. I know we live in a time where some people use labels and others don’t, but sometimes when we don’t use labels it makes us feel like we aren’t visually represented because we can’t easily identify or attach ourselves to identifiable markers. I’m bothered by how his straightness is what makes him more attractive to our gay main, or how it allows him to navigate into other avenues of sexual indulgence when he’s “bored or inconvenienced by a lack of female partners for him to use”. Or how he approaches our main character “post sex”, despite the author providing realistic commentary there’s still an element of experimentation and ego stroking.A lot about this character bothers me but is just how this is all ignored because he’s a nice guy, but it’s established greatly he treats the men in his life completely better than the women, how would this have faired if we had seen a FMM love triangle? Or we had gotten the perspective of one his female exes?He admits I’m pursuing how I would many of my past female partners those that experience fully carry over? If the plot is reliant on these elements what’s to say when the times comes and he’s bored by the newness of it all he’ll just return what he’s used and comfortable with?
Does te word BISEXUALITY ring at all? Dude, you're not gay, you're just bisexual ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭
I don't get why all the drama about being gay or not, if you loved women before and now you like a man, that makes you bisexual my friend, never has been gay. (〜 ̄△ ̄)〜