I don't really mind this story but why does the uke never help himself? Like even if he's ...

if that actually happens in real life, it'll be difficult to speak up about it since the victims are scared and considering the man that assault him is a customer the uke is scared to speak up, its hard to speak up

victim blamer

Yea!!! People are saying that a lot but they do NOT understand how hard it is to be in that situation and be able to “speak up” UGH

Idk victim banner or what? If someone touches u unwillingly ur first instinct is to push them away and beat the hell outta them. Kazuma here is ofc unrealistic. But believe me some other guy normally would have done that. Kazuma is just shown not to have a violent personality. Basically submissive insecure uke and dominant seme who always takes care of the uke. As every story goes...........*yawn*

we also have to consider how japanese people are about customer service, when they're speaking their opinions and when they're being sexually harassed. Like the others are saying when you're being touched it is hard to say something back and retaliate, but there are those who can fight back. There are different kinds of people and different type of mentalities for defense. Plus sadly japanese people tend to not speak out all the time when being harassed and its sad. Even when they want to speak out there are many factors that could prevent them from being heard or taken seriously..

Isnt it more logical to be mad at the harasser than the victim? Like no one wants to get sexually harassed anyways regardless of their reflex reaction. Lets stop victim blaming because no one would be harassed if their is no harasser.

If its that simple then their would not have been victims if sexual assualt/r*p*. Based on experience i just froze in place. Its tru that kazuma is kind of a wimp tho, but that makes him adorable

As someone who works with mentally disabled adults, we go through training on what's called "Fight, Flight, or Freeze". Most people don't know about the Freeze part of the saying, but that's what happens to A LOT of assault victims and many people wonder why they didn't just fight back or run away. This is usually the reason. I've found myself in an almost identical situation before. I still can't say I'd do any different if it happened again,, but I hope I would.

if someone in real life ACTUALLY touches you, you'll be scared to fight them trust me i've been through it, i stupidly thought "oh if they touch me i'll run and fight them" but when it actually happpens my whole body froze and i didn't know what to do.

I already said ig there r different types of ppl. I ain't blaming kazuma am I? Read what I wrote again. But what the author basically shows here is his non violent attitude which u must have too if u aren't beating the crap outta someone. Long time ago a dude was being too close and I said "What u wanna be fucked?" and slapped his ass. Lol. That's just how I am. That is why I say its Kazuma's personality tahts non violent but believe me it's somewhat unrealistic. Not that I have a problem.

someone was standing to close to you so you slapped his ass.. bitch youre the assaulter here.. this whole thread is full of victim blaming and its disgusting. its not unrealistic. this shit happens to people.

Nope not standing close practically the guy was super clingy to me while we all were dancing so I made my intentions clear. Yup I am a bitch instead of being a weak pussy cat. That's just me u see. Lol. The guy never came near me again. Haha. U overestimate urself. No one is victim blaming just saying it was unrealistic and he could have pushed him more but no one is saying it was Kazuma's fault that he was being forced. Lol. It's just in ur head this thing called "victim blaming". Haha u even called me an assaulter u just too funny. Bwhaha. U r too full of urself. It's just too funny.

Exactly, his reaction is realistic and the assaulter is such a sleezebag. Touching someone to threaten them is not it, makes you the same as them.

Lmao okay sooo just because a dude was really clingy , you slapped his ass? Sorry but like you could of told him to fuck off or just tell him to leave you alone if that doesn't work you still can't resort to slapping people's ass lmao and according to you you're a "bitch"? And not a " Pussy cat" So you're saying that we are pussy cats because we didn't slapped our assaulters ass?

Lol. It 2as just a joke ma'am. Not like I was gonna really fuck him. But that's just how I am. Not like I pinned him down or forced him tahts what u call assault. Don't tell me when u said u were assaulted u meant u were clinging to a guy and when the guy started clinging to u, u froze and that's what u call assault. Lol. Do u even know what assault is? Idk why but u talk more like a virgin who thinks even touching is assaulting. Haha.

Nope. If he could touch me why I can't I? Should I spend myself hesitating and frozen and wait for when he takes my hesitation as a yes. It's better being a bad guy than giving others unwanted signals. U talk about victim blaming. I don't leave a chance for that. I don't blame him or myself. Lol. U ppl got really wierd ideas about assault.

I wasn't saying you shouldn't defend yourself, but you could've just punched them? I was saying that sexually touching them back wasn't the way to go. But you already did it so you can't go back to change what happened. Its good he stopped messing with you tho.

Lol. What's the difference between punching and slapping ass. It's not like he was naked or something. I just did this part. I don't want to change anything. U got wierd ideas about assault lady. Ig he was being clingy to me he understood what he wanted from me so I just gave it to him but I told him in a more direct way that he shouldn't fuck with me unless he wants to use his ass. As simple as that. Idk if u know this or no one told u before but when someone touches u freeze or don't react then u r basically accepting him. And why punch him? Why ruin his face when the guy was just being clingy. I just gave him his answer. He can move on to other girls. I don't think he deserves to be punched on making a try on me. But a little pat on ass doesn't matter. I am always clear about everything u see. Lol. I wasn't "sexually" touching him. Not like I groped his ass. U ppl r too much.

When talked about him I thought you meant he touched you sexually. Thats why I said you could've punched him, also I didn't say specifically the face. You didn't clearly state how he was, clingy could mean a lot of things. I was sexually groped by a "clingy guy" and had my ass smacked while dancing at a club by another and thats considered sexual assault because I did not want it or asked for it. Also touching, be it just smacking an ass is a type of sexual assault. You don't need to rape them or pin them down and they don't need to be naked. Now I understand what you meant about him. I'm not weird, I just misunderstood the situation you told us. Also some of the things you said before did not help for us to understand what you were saying and you kept saying that it was a joke.

When you said " idk if u know this or no one told u before but when someone touches u freeze or don't react then u r basically accepting him." That is definitely victim blaming. You may be the type of person to stop it, but not everyone is like you. Like a previous comment said there's a type of mental defense mechanism where you can't help but freeze because you're so shocked or scared that its happening to you. That does not mean you are "accepting it" and im talking about The fight, flight or freeze comment.

Nope. It's not victim blaming lady. U should clearly push the person out. And that's why I said it differs in personality. Might be someone isn't the violent type and that's why they freeze or something but then too u have gotta say "no". Its not about victim blaming but if u never said no u can't even take the case to the police. I hope u understand this but women or men whoever is sexually harassed gotta be strong and deny it clearly. Believe me if u don't deny they just accept that as approval. Even if u freeze u have gotta say no after recovering. It might not mean u accept it but others take it taht way. There is no deficiency of leaches in this world and many times it's an unconcious drunk person.
About my situation let's be clear. If the guy clung to me I just gave him my answer. Since he touched me, he must be okay with me touching him. Just that. If I had done something violent it would just cause an unnecessary drama. Cause the guy was totally about to take it to another level so I stopped him before he could. Idk how u have pictured it. I remember I pat his ass one time. Since he wants to do it let's be forward right? I am willing to if the guy bottoms that what I indicated. Idk if u got I or not but that guy got it for sure.