I just wanted to let you know that I am sorry for what you had to go through. NO ONE fucking deserves that. I hope you get the love and care you deserve. Getting over trauma is incredibly difficult and sometimes impossible to 100% recover from. You are strong. It's okay to struggle along the way, but you are strong and human.
Sorry but I'd just like to point out that the low ratings have no direct effect on the actual authors and publishers. This is an illegal site after all.
It's quite apparent that the issues you've addressed seem to have a severe impact on you but I can't help but wonder why you can't just ignore the bad comments left by people? I can assure there'll always be those types of comments so instead of letting yourself be so hurt by them, I think In the long run it would be best to just not pay them any mind. Many of my favorite stuff whether it be manga/anime or music also has their fair share of dislikers but :/ I don't mind em bc at the end of the day I still like what I like and there are others who like them too. I hope you're able to find some form of relief from all this.
Sometimes it's hard to ignore comments. Also your advice is very helpful, thank you!
Not in a big way - but it gets their name out there and gets them publicity, which is always good (if theres a lot of internet chatter about how good an authors work is, its always good for them) and i would like to think some people do actually decide to support them or at least seek out more from them.
I also wouldn’t say what they write hurts me - especially when it come to what has happened to me in the past cos I'm pretty much past all that. I’m concerned it might hurt another young person who isn't, but not me.
Its just people with autism - injustice & inaccuracy really rubs us the wrong way and since I'm reading manga every day, often all day (I'm also quite physically disabled) it just niggles at me bit by bit. But once i write my disagreements down and press post it all disappears because i have done what i can to fix it.
Thanks, its nice of you to say. But to be honest, i’m pretty much past it - got to much shit going on now to dwell on that shit. I pretty much feel that is you give no mental energy towards the bad shit in the past, it gives it all less power over you.
im so sorry about what you had to go through, but for me personally, when i say "not my cup of tea" i'm saying that yes i read the tags, yes i read the description, yes i read the genres, yes i read the comments, and yes i read the ratings, but i just didnt enjoy it. this may just be me, but im sure not everyone had the intentions you described when they said it.
my point is not so much about the statement - it’s fine. it’s more about the accompanying 1 star because of a clash in morals- i didn’t mean everyone, just those to whom my statements applied - i wanted people to think about their posts & ratings through giving them new perspectives they may have not considered
Ok there seems to be a few misunderstood replies & i have tried to address them as best i could but i would like to clear up some things
What I've written clearly does not apply to everyone - no statement on these topics really could. And i know that what i say is simply one persons opinions & experiences, not all those who have been though trauma feel as i do either.
I’m also fine now with all that trauma stuff by the way and im not posting this cos i feel emotionally hurt by these comments (though i have slight concern others not over their trauma might).
The purpose behind my post was really to make people think before they post about the motives & viewpoints of others. And also to make them think before rating about whether it was the manga (writing, art, plot, pace, etc) or the morals they disliked & the same of course works in the opposite (its always sex & super fluff that seems to get high ratings). Im not expecting everyone to become experts in rating either, just asking them to think on it as best they can manage (people don't think before words enough)
So why was i compelled to post if i wasn't upset by this in relation to my trauma. Well this has more to do with my aforementioned autism. We often have trouble not speaking up when we see something that is, in our opinion, unjust or incorrect. And i read manga everyday cos i'm quite physically disabled as well, so seeing it just kept bugging me till, bit by bit, i had enough. In my case, i have a need to do something about things i think are wrong, but once I've done something that feeling goes away, cos I've done something.
Im so sorry about what happened to you! But i agree. Thats why i never pay attention to ratings. A lot of people here do immediately jump on the 1 star bandwagon if something clashes with their morals.
Female autism definitely needs to be addressed more. I know that a lot of women tend to get diagnosed pretty late, resulting in a lot of struggles and misunderstandings growing up. Early diagnosis is important. Not sure if this was your case, but it's an important discussion to have as well.
That is very true & they now know there are just as many females with autism as males, we’re just better at hiding it.
I wasn’t diagnosed until i was 26 & my life would have probably been a lot smoother if we had known. I don't know about the sexual abuse, but i might have realised it was wrong, or i would have told someone. But i know that many of the times i was hit/beat by my father was the result of my autism and a lot of the times my mother & sister covered for me. Leaving my sister to hate me, as she often took the blame cos she knew i would suffer more than her. which ultimately led to her abuse of me.
Life is A LOT easier & happier now i know, both for me and my family.
ah ok my bad i get it
Have you commented: “not my cup of tea” or something along the lines of “people who read this are sick” or have you tried to point out how the trauma is not realistic because the bad guy isn't punished or that its offensive to trauma sufferers?
I’ve decided to reply to you here cos there are just too many out there to reply to.
I’ve read too many manga now where I've wondered why it was given such a low rating. Then I look at the comments & see these kinds of posts:
“Not my cup of tea”
You’re basically saying: “I have chosen this manga to read, which i clearly did WITHOUT looking at the summary or tabs or lists or other peoples comments. I clearly chose wrong”
Now choosing the wrong manga or wanting to try something new is fine. But when you rate that manga with 1 or 2 stars because because you disagree with the characters morals, you are affecting other people: the mangaka, editors/publishers, the translator & the reader. Who btw, even though they read or work on a manga, don't necessarily agree with its morals. I even came across a comments saying that they chose it for the front cover & then they admitted they made the wrong choice - but they still gave it 1 star!
Think of the best manga you've ever read, now imagine if a bunch of people came in, who knew they didn't like that genre, & read it. Now they are giving a decent piece of work 1 star, so people looking for a good read in that genre will never find it because they are looking for a good read - not something rated as low as 6.0.
“People who read this are sick”
Think before you post. Yes, some that are read about trauma for enjoyment, that’s their choice & the fact that you are judging them is bad enough. But then there are those like me, who seek out manga concerning trauma for a different reason & here’s where a nasty statement like that really becomes OFFENSIVE. I seek out bad trauma, because i have suffered bad trauma & it just makes me feel better. But it’s SO HARD to find good trauma due to the inaccurate ratings, so i’m felling a lot less fulfilled each time. Also if such a careless statement upset me, (an adult who’s gotten out of & moved on from the trauma & doing relatively ok) i can only imagine how it could hurt a young teen, who has or is going through the same trauma. They won’t necessarily realise that you are the one wrong & by calling the acts “sick”, they may instead think that makes them sick or gross for having these acts forced upon them. Just because your online is no reason to be stupid.
Lastly the offensive to the realism of trauma and therefore to those who have been through trauma because they didn't suffer repercussions like in the ‘real world’:
Im sure those reading such manga (18+) are only enough to know if it is a trigger for them, as they probably read reviews before the manga, and those who do continue to read are old enough to know its FICTION.
I was sexually abused at 5 (non-family member - at school), i was physically, mentally & financially abused throughout my life by my father, I was also mentally & physically abused by my sister. Now, clearly, i was more upset by your comment then the manga, because unlike your comment - the manga was FICTION. I would also like to mention that not a single one of the above people have had to suffer any repercussions, so clearly your first point is incorrect. I clearly don't find the manga offensive, but instead i find it therapeutic. In fact reading about trauma was suggested to me in therapy, so I'm obviously not the only one, but i might be to only one willing to speak up (having autism has allowed me to detach). I’ll add that, while watching a documentary, i learnt that 90% of women with mental/cognitive illness are sexually abused at least once & its very common with autism females because they don’t understand whats being done & will believe what the other party says. I was one of these and it was only through reading fiction that i realised it was wrong and decided to reveal it to my family (at the late age of 28- i'm 34 now) at which point the other sister (not the abuse one) revealed she was sexually abused too (in her 50s), the abuser is long dead & never suffered repercussions.