is being a bottom bad?

Youru cchi July 19, 2020 9:22 am

why alex doesnt wanna be a bottom? i mean it is so shamefull for top being a bottom? bottom or top those are fine.

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    FML_69 July 19, 2020 9:25 am

    Exactly, but I can relate to Jiwon. I bet he just doesn’t want to be bottom, simple as that. And there’s really nothing wrong with that choice. Some people just prefer it that way while others don’t.

    Youru cchi July 19, 2020 9:27 am
    Exactly, but I can relate to Jiwon. I bet he just doesn’t want to be bottom, simple as that. And there’s really nothing wrong with that choice. Some people just prefer it that way while others don’t. FML_69

    ahh.. i see.. thank you fot the explanation, now i get it :)

    skeleton July 19, 2020 9:42 am

    it’s just preference. as a gay dude who strict tops the idea of bottoming is fucking repulsive man

    Mel-chan July 19, 2020 10:04 am

    Dude, it's a comic X'D And a YAOI (even if korean we are still there) comic, a fantasy world where being top or bottom is very different, it's not realistic material XD Anyway I give a five to who wrote that if someone doesn't want to be a bottom is perfect okay ^^

    Youru cchi July 19, 2020 11:36 am

    to mel-chan (i couldnt reply you on your comment.)
    yup i know perfectly it's just a comic. but it gives me a perspective that being a bottom is shamefull, i read a lot of yaoi and mostly of it the top doesnt want to be a bottom. that's why i asked, is being a bottom is bad?

    skeleton July 19, 2020 4:27 pm
    to mel-chan (i couldnt reply you on your comment.)yup i know perfectly it's just a comic. but it gives me a perspective that being a bottom is shamefull, i read a lot of yaoi and mostly of it the top doesnt wan... Youru cchi

    it’s not bad, it’s just that there’s no way in hell a top would bottom, it’s very strict preference

    skeleton July 19, 2020 4:35 pm
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    ... it’s not homophobic. it’s accurate. i’m a literal gay dude, i’m telling u, tops do NOT want to bottom
    idk why it’s some sort of code but the thought is horrifying

    skeleton July 19, 2020 4:56 pm
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    dumbing down dong-gyun’s character to fit your narrative of women empowerment is lame. dg is a man, has nothing to do with sexism.
    continuing, his character goes beyond just letting jiwon fuck, he’s generally submissive and nice. yes, in previous chapters jiwon treated him like shit, however it was due to past trauma [yes, trauma.] and he has since realized and grown from that. you comparing him to women in the first place is homophobia and sexism—he is a man. there is no such thing as being the “woman” in a relationship. also generalizing women to be submissive and shit in itself is sexist.

    skeleton July 19, 2020 4:58 pm
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    i don’t know if you caught onto this before but i’m a literal gay guy. the characters of bj alex aren’t homophobic stereotypes. regarding the appearance of dg and chanwoo, they’re unfortunately very effeminate however not until now have i viewed that as “yaoi stereotypes.” just figured the author has a preference for femboys getting railed

    Youru cchi July 19, 2020 5:49 pm

    i see.. i got a lot of perspective now.. thank you so much for reaponding my question. im still learning so please bear with me

    Youru cchi July 19, 2020 5:51 pm
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    please dont be mad.. i'll try to understand it :( im sorry if my question offended you...

    Youru cchi July 19, 2020 5:54 pm
    i don’t know if you caught onto this before but i’m a literal gay guy. the characters of bj alex aren’t homophobic stereotypes. regarding the appearance of dg and chanwoo, they’re unfortunately very eff... skeleton

    im sorry but, what is femboy? sorry i asked a lot, im still learning and i want to learn...

    skeleton July 19, 2020 6:24 pm
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    he was assumed to be the seme when he pushed dg down bud

    skeleton July 19, 2020 6:25 pm
    please dont be mad.. i'll try to understand it :( im sorry if my question offended you... Youru cchi

    nonono it’s not you!! you didn’t understand it’s ok

    Mel-chan July 20, 2020 8:46 am
    to mel-chan (i couldnt reply you on your comment.)yup i know perfectly it's just a comic. but it gives me a perspective that being a bottom is shamefull, i read a lot of yaoi and mostly of it the top doesnt wan... Youru cchi

    In the story, for the seme, yes. They don't want to be realistic gay men, but fantasy for girl and women, and the seme is ot meant to be a taker but the one who give it, it's all : ) I don't say this as an insult, but if you take as personal what fiction characters make (a lot of "bad" chara for example don't see as sooo bad killing ppl XD it would be absurd to think this is normal in reality, don't you think?), maybe you could speak with a good therapist. There's nothing bad and maybe it would feel better!

    Mel-chan July 20, 2020 8:50 am
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    Search help. Really. You need a good doctor. It's maybe years you read this kind of things on the web (tumblr, maybe?) and you totally lost the ability to distinguish reality and fantasy, and people like you can become dangerous. Speak with a good therapist, they will explain you why there is NOTHING bad in fantasy and why fiction is totally different from reality. Search help, really. You need it so much.

    Mel-chan July 20, 2020 8:54 am
    dumbing down dong-gyun’s character to fit your narrative of women empowerment is lame. dg is a man, has nothing to do with sexism. continuing, his character goes beyond just letting jiwon fuck, he’s general... skeleton

    Skeleton, my compliments to you, if all people who leave comment on the web were like you I'd still read topics like this (instead I was just unlucky and saw this without wanting it -.- sorry for the brocken english, it's not my mother tongue and I'm a bit rusty). I too commented this terribile user but tbh I think it's useless for both of us. People like them just have big problems, but unfortunately they write (as you said) "shit" like this on the web instead of searching help.

    Mel-chan July 20, 2020 8:58 am
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    PS: Luckily people like you DON'T have the power to decide what other people (women first) can read, or we would live in a horrible world. And the fact you arrive to say thing like "omfg" is proof of how much you are irritated 'cause people don't agree with your insane view of the world ^^''If you think that is all, then that's your opinion. " LOL, it's the same for every (absurd) thing you wrote XD

    Mel-chan July 20, 2020 9:08 am
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    Ah, and I forgot: your unhealty ideas are MUCH MORE sexist and homophobic than yaoi, uke and seme XD Lol, you are saying a gay man how gay ppl should leave their sexual roles and that fiction material made from women for women is "wrong" and should be adapted to people like you who don't like it (LOL). Guess what: nope. Again: search help, really. You need to understand that in fantasy everything can happen and that there's nothing bad. Again, THANK GOD you can't decide what people read, or we would live in a horrible world.

    Mel-chan July 20, 2020 9:11 am
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    You seem out of your mind O_o to make a link like that between yaoi, skeleton's comment (who is just saying "there is people who don't want to bottom and that's okay") and this absurd idea XD Don't comment here, search a doctor! PS: writing things like "omfg" just make you appear more unreasonable :/