Maybe shouldn't be saying this but...

Orlike..whatever July 15, 2020 6:53 pm

I like it and want to see where this is going and maybe it's just me being silly but... Like why is it that if a girl is with a guy who's already in a relationship then she's condemned for being a homewrecker but if it's a guy who's with a girl who's already in a relationship it's a mistake she made and the guys a victim? Like wtf? In both cases they're both wrong...

Responses
    Ahk July 15, 2020 6:57 pm

    I think in both situations, the person who's cheating is wrong.

    soie_yoie July 15, 2020 9:23 pm

    Home wrecker is someone who breaks a married family not a bf or gf. Its a very specific type of relationship.

    A man can be a home wrecker as well.

    I think the problem is most mistress want to take the wife position. While some males just want a fling. No strings attached so he doesnt care to brake up a family to insert himself in it.

    They only thing i can think of that is unfair and sexist is the term hooker and giggalo. Both sell themselves, but if a man sells himself he's like a host and glorified. Girls who sell themselves are generally viewed as dirty.

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    Double standards.

    the_Al_meh_ty July 15, 2020 10:22 pm
    I think in both situations, the person who's cheating is wrong. Ahk

    Well... I think that depends on the situation? For instance if the person who the cheater cheats with doesn't know that he or she already has someone, then they're definitely also a victim of the situation, because they're also getting cheated in a way.

    On the other hand, if they know and they're actively involved (and sometimes even encouraging) in destroying a relationship for personal gain... Can you really call the person blameless? Though, of course, there's that age old argument "you can't help who you love", but the fact that they were partially responsible in some way in taking away a person's happiness is still true...

    Personally (this is only my personal opinion, people can have different opinions, I don't think everyone has to agree with me) I think that both parties should at the very least feel guilty about the pain they cause to a person.

    That said, it's definitely true that a bigger portion of the blame lies on the cheater for sure, because they're the one who are making a promise and commitment to the person they're in a relationship with, and some unrelated third party has no such commitment or duty (unless that third party is a friend or family of course, in that case it's definitely betrayal).

    paranoidcommunist July 15, 2020 10:35 pm

    You are correct. If they're both aware but still do it anyway then both of them can go to hell. Man have some dignity.