i know this isnt the platform for this but i really need advice

just break up with him. that kind of act will just end up with you being the loser here. stand up for yourself and break up with him, he doesn't deserve you. you're just uncomfortable with the idea of him and your so called best friend are talking. cut off ties with them, that's toxic relationship and friendship right there.

and don't come at me saying what's toxic there bc facetiming, snapping and even telling you that they sound and look like a couple is toxic. your best friend is giving you an idea already.

CUT OFF TIES WITH THEM

If she is a real friend she wouldn't be talking to him in the first place...drop both of them they shouldn't be THAT CLOSE. You can find someone wayyyyy better than them period.

leave him ASAP

In my opinion, the fact that you are worried that both of them might have a relationship means you are jealous and that you still like him (even if its just tiny bit). But the fact that she already sent you signs means that they have a relationship behind your back and I believe no TRUE friend/boyfriend would do that. My suggestion for you is to confront/talk to both your boyfriend and your friend about this. After that end up ties with both of them and try to move on without them. Remove the toxic people in your life, you don't need them. ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶

It’s hard to tell if you’re jealous or worried about this because this is your own feelings and you know yourself the best. But...what do you feel whenever one of them is being close with the other one? Are you bothered by it? Do you’ve to supress this feeling of telling them to stop? Do you feel hurt when your boyfriend pays more attention to your bff than you? Or in the other way around, does it bother you more that your best friends spends more time with him?
There’s probably not the time for this, but science shows that you produce a lot of dopamine, a hormon that’s released in your body, giving you butterflies just by a thought of him, making your heartbeats go crazy whenever you see him, and helps other hormones to mess up your feelings. To sum up, when dopamine is produced and your mind is filled up with him, you have feelings for him. But if you end up in a relationship with him, slowly, the feelings will fade, or it feels like that. You don’t think of him too much anymore, and there’s no loud heartbeats to hide. You’re then in a state when your body releases oxytocin. But it doesn’t mean that you’ve lost your feelings for him. Because after liking someone...the feelings might grow to love. So maybe, and just maybe, you’re experiencing this lack of feelings because you’re in a stable realtionship and you feel at ease and relaxed with him. Anyways...

When you’ve been in a relationship with someone for a long time, they’ll over time become a big part of your world, like a leg to the table. If we do follow the theory of you loving him, then, here’s another question. Could you have imagened him being with your bff, or any other girls, without your world getting a big scratch or two? Or of you did, do you think you could’ve healed a short amount of time and went on with life? Do you want to give him away in someone elses arms?

Oh...I guess I’ll give away another pont of view. Most people are dreaming for this rare thing we call true love. An everyday life filled with neverending smiles and laughters, and you just love each other more for every passing minutes. And I’m not saying it’s impossible to achieve that kind of love, but you shouldn’t long for the same feelings to call it affection and love for a person. Relationships are about having a partner to rely on, to share your tears and to increase your smiles. If you have a slightly feeling of affection toward him, don’t take it for granted. Think about it througly if you still have feelings for him or if they’ve faded away.
Anyways...I probably have no right to say this, but I do disagree with how your friend handles this situation. It’s great if your bf and bff is close, so that your inner circles is connected and no stress for you to hang out with both of them. But talking too much about your boyfriend, almost more than you do yourself, and even telling other people than just you that they are a couple in her parents eyes, I wouldn’t have found it okey. Maybe she’s joking about it, maybe not, but that’s something that should’ve been privatly between you two. And I don’t want to say furthermore about that case.
Lastly, yes you are allowed to ask questions to us, because we’d gladly answer them all. But there’s a big chance that you’ll come out of this with more questions and more paranoid than ever after being through this. The two other persons in this world with the answers is your boyfriend and best friend, and I suggest for you to talk to your boyfriend first about it. With feelings or not, you should still console the situation with him. It’s okey if you don’t have all the anwers yet and that you haven’t restored your feelings, but you should tell him about this situation with your points of view, and let him be aware of it all. Once you’ve talked about it, you’ll probably be more certain about this hole scenario, but also your feelings. But feel free to ask and talk more if you don’t feel like talking to him yet! Damn I’m so srry for writing this much

everyone saying break up with your bf and I agree, but also cut off that "best friend" fucking bitch, I would break her face, she's purposely rubbing it in your face "lol your boyfriend is snapping me" tf trick ass bitch

also pls give us an update on what happens and if you're ok and drink water and do self care (▰˘◡˘▰)

When you are in a relationship with someone, it's normal to feel that that person belongs to you and you belong to him, irregardless of whether you have romantic feelings or not. So when your bf suddenly becomes close to someone else, it can make you feel uncomfortable, it's like you're jealous. This type of feeling is normal, it can even happen when you have a close friend who suddenly becomes buddy-buddy with someone else and stops hanging out with you; you'd feel the same way. It's just the attachment that has been developed over time that makes you feel that way. But don't confuse it with love, it's totally different. Should you stay in the relationship? Only you can answer that question. But based on you own assessments of your own feelings toward him, it seems like you should already know the answer. Just think of what's best for you first, and act on it decisively & promptly. That way you can avoid being hurt, or ending up with a lot of hard feelings. I wish you luck.

yes, please give us update. We'll be here to listen to you ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶

thank you guys for the advice!! we haven’t broken up yet. i’m waiting until i can see him in person to do it because i just feel like it’d be a shitty move to break up through text or through a phone call (it’s a little tough though because of corona). i also tried to talk to him a little more and call more to see if that would maybe help our relationship but it didn’t work. he’s been responding slower and leaving me on read. i guess it just wasn’t meant to be huh? anyways, thank you for the advice!! it’s my first ever relationship so i didn’t really know how to go about things but all of your advice has really helped me!

and regarding my best friend, i’m not quite sure yet how i want to go about things. it’s kind of hard for me to believe that she’d try to get with him or something behind my back because we’ve been through so much together and have so many memories. i think she does have feelings for him though. seeing as how they made plans to see each other without me knowing. i only found out the day of that they were going to see each other but then later cancelled because of corona.

I wouldn't even bother to care if its a shitty move to dump him over text now, since he doesn't even seem to put in the effort with yalls relationship anymore..

him responding slower and leaving you on read is def a sign its turning sour, I would take the chance to break up with him first if you don't want to get dumped first

anyway you're a bad bitch and you don't need a man, thriveヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~

thank you!!

That's ok, do things at your own pace. Hope you're doing ok though, drink wine, do some pampering and some self care~ ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶

....he isn’t even trying to reach out for your relationship to work?!? I’m not a fond of judging people too easily without hearing their story too, but after all the things you’ve written, I’m certain that you deserve someone with much more values than he will ever have! Fight on! We here on Mangago will have your back!

It can’t be help if you have feelings for someone, like you can’t really just drown the emotions and be done with it. But I believe there are much better ways to handle the situation when you fall in love with your best friends lover, than going all lovey dovey with him, and then brag openly about it.
I’m not telling you to get rid of her. Yes people make failures more than they can count so don’t judge them all by one action, but I suggest for you to only keep her if you still treasure her like she is right now in the present, and not because of past memories you’ve made together. Maybe you can forgive her, but as the one person that knows her the best, can you feel secure that she won’t do it again with your next love interest? Like, can you trust her for not chosing you away once more, to chase after somebody else?
Here’s a quote for you: «Sometimes, you don’t miss the person, but the memories»
It does sounds like I’m supporting the idea of getting rid of her, but I’m just leaning more on this side for your perspectives own good, because you still hestitate by the good and old lingering memories. There’s nothing good by grabbing onto the past if it’s not connected with the present and isn’t giving away a promise of a good future. Choose her to be by your side because you guys love each other and support each others back right now, not because you used to!

If you are over the age of 20, your boyfriend should be mature enough to not send snaps like that. And your friend is suspicious if she knows about the relationship.

If you're just a teenager, you guys are just experimenting and being playful/ with your boyfriend and friend not being really aware if they hurt your feelings. I think you should break up casually if your feelings for him aren't that strong, but stay as friends?

Teenage relationships are meant to be a bit cray cray. You will find someone who is more thoughtful one day.

Good! Break up in person. You will find your Mr right one day.

Wow, well said, I totally agree. I loooooove the community here in mangago~ I love how supportive the people here are. ヾ(☆▽☆)

Thanks, and me too! It’s really amazing how supportive everyone is, and how we all help each other out either with some recommendations to read or with issues from their lives. It’s a rarity that I hope will be treasured and let it last for a very long time~