I'm the same! (≧▽≦)
Personally I don’t like this stereotype in both shojo and yaoi.
By the way, I don’t think that a cute, ditzy uke is innovative, unconventional, because the uke is perceived as the « feminine » role in the couple. Ukes are even called Mums in omega verse. So their personality traits remain linked to the female gender conceptually.
I know. Many times it's actually hurts actual gay men because media portrays them as 'female' men or just the girl in the relationship and don't see them as masculine.
But why do we think that any sort of feminine character is bad for men at all? Or vice versa?
So..I just had this super random thought..
See...when in shoujo or female lead mangas or dramas, I usually dislike the mary sues and cutesy ditzy girls. But I'm tolerant of those in yaoi male ukes.
Because cuteness and the helpless act is normalized for the generic feminine role, its not an interesting character design...aka just basic..aka a boring read.
But at the same time,for men the same characteristics are frowned on and so men who own their adorableness(ukes) are kinda charming and entertaining?
Or maybe I have a biased taste and I'm just overanalyzing.