Okay so this trope is sooooo embarrassing

EiTheR June 28, 2020 12:58 am

When Jiwon was rubbing his dick between Donghyun’s thighs while Dg was asleep, I was so taken aback, it seemed like Jiwon had grown but this was him being forceful and forgetting completely about consent just like he used to
Well its prolly because I’ve seen this trope(rubbing/sucking/fucking-u name it, while the other is asleep)used way too many times recently and I have a hard time enjoying completely a story when the author who had made her character change, erases -only for the sake of depicting a highly questionable erotic trope- this growth

So yup I’m done with ranting about that trope which makes me SO uncomfortable (like how can someone not feel like that reading such a scene??? Hello would u like to be abused in ur sleep?? All the more by someone u were supposed to trust??)

Responses
    Kittybundy June 28, 2020 1:15 am

    Omg no, it's not abuse pooh. It's not supposed to be taken that way. Many couples do that and believe it or not, some people love to be woken up like that. They both are extremely freaky so I expected them to do that alot. It's not about abuse or being somewhat betrayed by someone you trust; it's just really sexy lol

    Inez03 June 28, 2020 1:22 am

    I completely agree, it's so uncomfortable to see him waking up DG like that

    Raphaelia June 28, 2020 1:35 am

    Is it wrong that they're a couple and Jiwon doesn't have to hold back with being a pervert, it's normal to do that in a relationship, and I don't think that scene looked abusive, if something this simple could make u complain im sure the s scenes b4 that could make u more disappointed, wth is abusive between a couple and being horny for their sleeping pair, if he slid it right in his ass then that's too much, bro, I feel bad that u depict scenarios as that, enjoy the fact Jiwon and Dg is happy together physically and mentally and they're expressing it
    And wdym the author changed the character for the sake of that erotic 'trope', BJAlex was always erotic, and now that they're a couple they will have more mutual sex
    It's true that their relationship started off physical but Jiwon now loves to know more about Dg. Don't u just love seeing the pair seme head over heels for their pair?? <3333

    Ovelha June 28, 2020 1:36 am

    He don't look to care though, if he says "I don't like this, don't do that" and then he continues, is abuse.
    But, If my boyfriend woke me up like that I will like it ⁄(⁄ ⁄·⁄ω⁄·⁄ ⁄)⁄

    EiTheR June 28, 2020 1:48 am
    Omg no, it's not abuse pooh. It's not supposed to be taken that way. Many couples do that and believe it or not, some people love to be woken up like that. They both are extremely freaky so I expected them to ... Kittybundy

    Although many might do it to their partners while they are asleep do not turn it into something consensual, which is what I was referring to (“abuse” might not have been the most suitable term)
    Alright if the partner has voiced his consent to be woken up that way beforehand, this wouldn’t be as borderline
    However the fact that both Dg and jiwon love sex does not equate to consent from Donghyun to be rubbed in his sleep unaware of his surroundings
    Indeed Dg seemed to be fine with it and then it makes it seem as somewhat ok

    The whole point of my comment was to rant abt that trope which makes me uncomfortable no matter how many ppl may find it sexy and that i consider borderline regardless of how it might not be unusual in relationships. This chapter and This scene especially triggered it, but that’s it.

    EiTheR June 28, 2020 2:20 am
    Is it wrong that they're a couple and Jiwon doesn't have to hold back with being a pervert, it's normal to do that in a relationship, and I don't think that scene looked abusive, if something this simple could... Raphaelia

    many scenes in BJ made me uncomfortable so I am no longer disappointed since I had no expectations from this series in regards of how consent is handled ... my intent was not to call out this scene specifically since as u highlighted they’re both horny and perverts from the get go and well BJ Alex is not the kind of webtoons you expect much depth from, its erotic and the author has found many ways to depict sex scenes some more questionable than others
    But yup i get it, the author wants to show us for the last extra chapters that they’ve found each other romantically and physically and that they’re now both willingly going all out and fucking right from when they wake up(and even before)and. don’t get me wrong I am happy to see them like this, especially after all the angst we went through bfore, we deserve to witness their happiness which yeah in their case is translated through how they are in bed first-

    In the end i think that i should have posted a separate topic where i could have complained about all the series in which there was such a trope and how some depicted VERY borderline scenes (such as a penetration of someone who’s sleeping, yup thats a big no no) UNLIKE that one scene where there was no penetration
    This chapter of BJ alex made me remember past experiences I had reading such scenes and feeling SO uncomfortable, so I used that scene as an example but i was referring to how this trope in general is hard for me to enjoy no matter how sexy it comes off as

    Srry if i might have sounded as if i was denouncing the depiction of a kind of abuse (which is not the term i should have used) in this scene specifically which is not what I was going for