I have never experienced cheating, but I know that people are complicated. Serial cheaters definitely will cheat again. They are the ones that can’t break a habit BUT this can’t be said for every single person who has ever cheated. That was my point. Not saying you should take back a cheater, but it would be a good idea to look at their psyche and why it led down to cheating.
Many times, people cheat with people who they don’t even give a shit about! They person they are cheating on is the one they actually love (wife, husband) but they might feel like they don’t deserve them so cheating is a way to hide their pain.
Once you even think about cheating that means you do not love the person your with the same way as before, i dont know about your idea of love but devoting yourself to ur partner is among the number one rules you should not break . Relationships are based on trust and let s be honest with ourselfs , once that trust is broken and especially the first time you cannot look at your partner the same way
I'm not trying to put u down at all, I totally understand what u r saying, but when I said once a player always a player I was just talking about the manga not the world and because the manga was finished that leaves us to think about what could happen in the future, so I just said that he could cheat because old habits die hard. I'm sorry if it seemed that I was ignoring your points and dissing u; that's not what I wanted at all.
You are trying to justify cheating here wich is very dangerous and i hope you are aware of that , no matter what the cheater's mentality is that s his problem to fix , cheating because you don't think u deserve them that s ridiculous and sorry to say that . You mentioned that you have never experienced cheating and based of your prespective of it you should really be careful you could easily be manipulated . You should value yourself more there is nothing worse than being cheated by someone you hold dear.
If you decide to forgive a cheater then that s your own decision , but that means you have accepted the fact that your loved less than wht you deserve and settled with being second
What? No, I am not justifying cheating. So having a conversation about this is dangerous? What happened to having discussions? The world is not black or white. You seem to have this notion that anyone who cheats does not love or anyone who takes a cheater back is going to be loved less for the rest of their life. But people are complicated and so is love. I personally will break up if someone cheats on me, but I can’t say that my best friend who is in a happy relationship with her husband is being loved less or that she deserves better. She is in a great place now with her husband. She seems way happier than the people I know who have never had their partner cheat on them. Everyone is different and they know what they should do in situations like this.
Once a player, always a player