So Jeonghan is one of the most toxic personality types ever. Let me explain why:
1) He dates someone for 8 yrs and not once during that relationship did he ever share his deepest insecurities with his significant other. Then switched it back to Kangwoo and said he didn’t love him enough. Apparently he developed no trust or communication with his SO after 8 yrs. 2) it is so conceited and downright wrong to judge Kangwoo’s emotions like that. I get that his own indicators likely led to it but everyone expresses love differently and Kangwoo will probably have high insecurities going forward if he (HOPEFULLY) move on to love someone else because now he will feel like the way he expresses him emotions won’t be enough or be felt by the other party 3) Jeo basically assumed that because he confessed first his emotions were stronger. But it is damn near impossible to be together with someone you don’t actually love for 8 yrs. 3) He decides not to give Kangwoo a reason for their breakup after 8 year at first until Kangwoo consistently begged him. Then decided to emotionally torture him by making Kangwoo think he slept with someone else. Peak toxic 4) He constantly acts like he needs sympathy and is the most miserable person in the world but he didn’t even want to talk out his issues with his SO but instead chose to talk to friends and the guy who clearly has the hots for him. 5) he never really pushed Gyu-whatever away even when he was in a relationship (and even acknowledged this himself) because he’s a POS 6) he uses Gyu-whatever to drown his sorrows and constantly think about his ex while they are together physically which is not healthy 7) not two hot weeks it seems after breaking up, he thinks he’s already beginning to love Gyu-whatever? Dude that happen right after he almost had a panic attack after seeing Kangwoo? How shallow are his emotions??
I know someone is going to say “oh but he has mental health issues”. Yes. I agree he seems to maybe need some healing in that department but , and I cannot stress this enough: Mental health issues do not give you a free pass to treat others like shit. If you guys are around someone who is treating you the way Jeo treats Kangwoo, not accepting accountability for their own flaws and making things your fault: leave them. Your mental health is your own responsibility and theirs is their own. Don’t try to fix them, it will wear you out mentally. That is what therapy is for.
Sorry I know that was a lot but this character made me channel my inner English major.
So Jeonghan is one of the most toxic personality types ever. Let me explain why:
1) He dates someone for 8 yrs and not once during that relationship did he ever share his deepest insecurities with his significant other. Then switched it back to Kangwoo and said he didn’t love him enough. Apparently he developed no trust or communication with his SO after 8 yrs.
2) it is so conceited and downright wrong to judge Kangwoo’s emotions like that. I get that his own indicators likely led to it but everyone expresses love differently and Kangwoo will probably have high insecurities going forward if he (HOPEFULLY) move on to love someone else because now he will feel like the way he expresses him emotions won’t be enough or be felt by the other party
3) Jeo basically assumed that because he confessed first his emotions were stronger. But it is damn near impossible to be together with someone you don’t actually love for 8 yrs.
3) He decides not to give Kangwoo a reason for their breakup after 8 year at first until Kangwoo consistently begged him. Then decided to emotionally torture him by making Kangwoo think he slept with someone else. Peak toxic
4) He constantly acts like he needs sympathy and is the most miserable person in the world but he didn’t even want to talk out his issues with his SO but instead chose to talk to friends and the guy who clearly has the hots for him.
5) he never really pushed Gyu-whatever away even when he was in a relationship (and even acknowledged this himself) because he’s a POS
6) he uses Gyu-whatever to drown his sorrows and constantly think about his ex while they are together physically which is not healthy
7) not two hot weeks it seems after breaking up, he thinks he’s already beginning to love Gyu-whatever? Dude that happen right after he almost had a panic attack after seeing Kangwoo? How shallow are his emotions??
I know someone is going to say “oh but he has mental health issues”. Yes. I agree he seems to maybe need some healing in that department but , and I cannot stress this enough: Mental health issues do not give you a free pass to treat others like shit. If you guys are around someone who is treating you the way Jeo treats Kangwoo, not accepting accountability for their own flaws and making things your fault: leave them. Your mental health is your own responsibility and theirs is their own. Don’t try to fix them, it will wear you out mentally. That is what therapy is for.
Sorry I know that was a lot but this character made me channel my inner English major.