whew! thank you, you couldn't have said it better!!
PREACH
honestly I don't feel like Chanwoo has the right to feel jealous cuz MD already confessed to him and he rejected him but like srsly a safe word is just there in case your partner isn't comfortable, you can't force him to say it by pulling shit like this, MD srsly fucked up. Chanwoo not saying the safe word whenever they had their play is proof that he is comfortable, why do you feel the need to make him say the word? Srsly fuck u MD
And I can already see those toxic fans coming in like "if you don't want to read don't" or "Chanwoo agreed to this" and all I gotta say is get some help cuz you're justifying manipulative shit
Yeah, I understand and i know I’m going to get hella dislikes but I still didn’t like the misrepresentation of the BDSM community, we don’t support abuse and manipulation. Bdsm relationships number one priority is trust, and MD pushed it.
exactly and from what i can tell there's already a lot of ppl who think abuse is ok in BDSM relationships which is not the case at all. there was literally a comment saying MD shouldn't have listened to chanwoo...
Sickos, and I bet it was a minor who made that comment.
But actual Doms are not perfect and can get swayed by their emotions. And Chanwoo isnt a good Sub either. He does not trust MD and is never comfortable with his wn limits. MD was trying teach Chanwoo that it is ok to say this is not what you want to do.
IRL relationships are not perfect so neither are MD and Chanwoo. MD isnt a perfect Dom can be swayed by his emotions and imo chanwoo is a terrible sub who has trust issues and cant ask for help when he needs it. Which is needed in a S/M relationship. If Chanwoo was able to communicate with MD Im pretty sure this could have been prevented
Trust me I got a lot of dislikes and backlash for expressing my opinions about wrong things in yaoi with the first one being consent and trust especially in stories that claim to be bdsm, it's usually new or underage yaoi fans who are not properly educated about stuff that come for reasonable ppl so yea just shut them down and you do you
We all know MD srsly fucked up this time and the fact that he was kind at first or that he's handsome won't save him from it
You don’t have to be a perfect Dom just to know not to push your sub’s limits, if Chanwoo wasn’t ready to express himself then DONT push his trauma on him and make him do something he didn’t want to do. He wanted to manipulate him into wanting to be with him or either he loses their comfortable sexual companionship to someone who used him. That’s why you need PATIENCE in s/m relationships, you don’t just force someone’s hand on fire to let them know it’s hot. You’re blaming Chanwoo for not wanting a serious relationship with someone just because you feel he should and because he’s not one to use a safe word? You shouldn’t try to FORCE someone to use that, it means you’re making them no longer feel safe. He triggered his sub on purpose, that is not okay. If you support MD then do so but don’t come here trying to justify his actions on MY comment when it’s clear I don’t support it.
They really tried to come on my comment blaming Chanwoo for not really trusting MD like he’s not abuse victim in every relationship he’s in-
Lmao this is why I can't stand some yaoi readers they just have no brains
It’s so crazy people are justifying this scene behind bdsm, this is NOT okay. As a ACTUAL DOM, not a 50 shady of grey or mark me bark reader, but REAL LIFE DOM, you should NEVER try to purposely make your sub use the safe word. It is a word when your sub feels unsafe or very uncomfortable so the fact he pushed that till Chanwoo was in tears just because of unrequited feelings that weren’t in the original agreement is fucking shitty. This is NOT bdsm or what we stand for, this is manipulation, a man who loves control and masochistic abuse victim. I continued to read because I hoped for some redemption because I was a fan of the original story but THIS? It’s not it, and I bet it’ll be brushed over to put them in a relationship. If this was a psychological tag then I’d understand but this is ROMANCE, that’s the wild part.