victim blaming (=・ω・=)
until ur in Chanwoo position
Well, I ain't stupid enough to fall for a guy I just met
you don’t know that
Yes, I do.
no you don’t
Yes, I do.
no you dont, babe
nice! (๑•ㅂ•)و✧ I didn't remember what the sentence was for it, thank you.
keep preachinggggg
I believe you were both trying to prove the same point, hehehe
Yes, I do.
I mean, I don’t think he fell at first sight? He only got interested because the guy was his type and treated him kindly AND liked BDSM as well. And then they started hanging out and talking and going to dates together. Like any other person.
But anyway, can falling in love really be measured or judged in terms of intelligence or stupidity? It is a feeling, not a rational decision. You can choose to feed this feeling or not, but you don’t actually choose the way you feel. Considering the guy was deceiving him, he can not be blamed for not noticing something that was not there to be noticed.
And even if it was, feelings and how people evaluate their self worth are a complex equation that sometimes creates vulnerabilities. It is not right to abuse these vulnerabilities and knowingly hurt other people only to satisfy personal needs.
I think you should take into consideration the difference between actually "falling in love" with the person and get attracted to them. attraction and love are totally different things, love can't be built on someone you don't know shit about, cause you have no basis to build it other than your imagination, and in this case, it's not real with not actually get to know the other person more than his looks.
in this case, Chan wasn't "in love", he was attracted to the other person, but not in love. and I will claim he feel the same to MD, only MD he knows way better.
just because you never 'fell in love' at first sight, doesnt mean someone stupid for that, babe
he is stupid for not be able to see the difference between "attraction" and "love", and you also dumb if you can't see the difference too.
Many times love initiates as attraction. And he genuinely likes the guy, it is not just attraction. He believes they share interests and likes to spend time with him. They never had sex, actually, they only talked and went out.
It is complex. Are you sure you can differentiate it? Because I don’t think I can always do it, nor do I feel entitled to judge other’s feelings. And I wouldn’t use rationality as a criteria to decide if someone’s feelings are legitimate or not. Most times, you don’t love or like someone because you understand they would be good food you using intelligence. It is a feeling, not an equation.
We don’t actually know what they talked about when they hanged out together. I also don’t think he actually loves him. But regardless of his feelings being superficial or not, he was deceived. He wanted to start a relationship and get to know the guy. Is it a crime to get interested in someone? He was single, he was taking a chance, why should he be punished for it?
no he didn't like him, he just like...meet him. he likes his LOOKS. that the only thing he sew-in him. he was even surprised the other is actually more "serious" than him. that how much he actually cares about this dude and had no problem having sex with him. that is not LOVE! that how easy Chan is. which again I don't care if he wants to play around, have sex with strangers or get a disease.
yap you should learn to see the difference between actually caring and get to know a person, like really know him and just want to have sex with them with no care for who he is (attraction)
he has no basis for having feelings, again, unless he is delusional.
and I didn't care if he play around has long he won't mix MD into this crap and his sex partners! that his damn fault and he is an asshole for it!
Chanwoo, you reap what you sow. (=・ω・=)