ok but chanwoo wasn’t even being selfish, at they beginning they set clear rules that its a purely professional relationship and outside of that time their private life stays private, MD broke that rule and caught feelings and i think that is selfish to want to change the rules to benefit him(i love both of them obviously they were gonna fall in love its a manga)
in general (not directing it md n chanwoo), bl consumers love the 'he's not a bad guy, he jus has unresolved trauma n is misunderstood' when it comes to the semes lol. it lowkey stems from misogyny (since its the same in hetero relationships). this is precisely why characters like sangwoo from killing stalking has a weird ass fanbase. morals dont exist when you find the character sexy and it's problematic as hell
Agreed. Chanwoo has the right to reject and be in any relationship he wants. He can reject who he wants. MD doesn't need to be petty, and manipulate and pressure Chanwoo. 'You don't have to do it, if you don't want to, but this means the other sub will replace you' - MD He knows that Chanwoo still wants to be his sub, so he won't say the safe word, and will go through something he doesn't want to. MD is petty.
Yesssss!! misogyny also includes categorising gay men into certain stereotypes - the 'masculine'/top n more feminine/'bottom' - and that LITERALLY becomes their defining personality. Obviously, i shouldnt really expect much since that is the norm in most webtoons but i think it's an important topic to discuss since gay people aren't a fantasy - there real people who are gay irl. Chanwoo isn't just a bottom. He is a gay person that has been in abusive relationships. He deserves respect and communication from MD. People are just not getting it ugh
LITERALLY YESSSS OH MY GOD THANK YOU that's why I put quotations on top and bottom bc in yaoi they're merely stereotypes and it infuriates me when people constantly ask who's the bottom, who's the top. etc. like why the fuck should that matter? gay relationships are not accessories to fetishize. they're real people with real emotions. moreover, the fact that a good amount of readers are for MD's actions is bizarre as fuck. Chanwoo's brain is trained to return back to those types of relationships that harm him bc he probably gets some sort of high from it and doesn't understand how to differentiate real love from toxicity, and it's a real problem that he needs to reflect and do some soul searching for-- not be "taught a lesson" by pety ass MD smh.
the world would be a better place if everyone thought like you LOL. this chapter was.......yikes but people's responses? super concerning. like what exactly did chanwoo do to warrant this situation? MD is teaching chanwoo what lesson??
(posted this before but didnt go through so not sure if i double replied)
Chanwoo being supposedly 'selfish' does not excuse MD's actions. Like ok, lets say Chanwoo was 'selfish' for wanting to maintain a relationship partner and the BDSM relationship with MD. Yeah, they can be hurtful, since MD has feelings for Chanwoo. But logically, does that warrant manipulation and borderline abuse? No. Two wrongs don't make a right. Yes, Chanwoo could have made better choices but the thing IS, he has been in abusive relationships in the past so there are clear issues with boundaries. MD is older than Chanwoo, he's also more aware of boundaries (having been doing all this for so long). MD is able to be more mature, yet he decides to be petty and corner Chanwoo, fully knowing it is difficult for Chanwoo to say 'no'. This is why it's problematic, and it's not about the slap, the slap just escalates this situation further. So, fuck MD.